So I a sahm. Dh work long days if commuting but has the occasional work from home day which are naturally shorterand is often home early on Fridays.
During the week I seem to do everything for dc 11, 9 and 2 including their evening meal, bedtime, night wakings etc plus laundry, housework, school admin, medical appts, bins etc. So all in all weekdays are relatively balanced.
However on Friday I had full day out with dc. Dh had clearly arrived home at least 20 minutes before me and had sorted himself out with some tea leaving an obvious mess. I cooked a quick tea and did the mornings washing up as left so early. Tea was served and I did bedtime etc
So this morning I get up and do morning routine. Dh surfaces just before 9 and I pop to my workout class. Last nights and this mornkng washing up was still in the bowl but I did put a wash on before leaving. I return and dh leaves for his day out at the football. I at least thought he would do the washing up but no it was still in the bowl.
so yet again I am home with 9 year old and toddler whist he does what he wants with eldest child.
I know part of the answer is to get dc to do more. The eldest is pretty good but the middle one is more challenging as her some additional needs.
dh also suffers from arthritis so obviously I would not expect him to peg washing out but surely he could do washing up. I also know he will probably get home this evening and fester in the chair watching tv leaving me to do bedtime etc.
So aibu to expect abit more or should I make more allowances for his condition which does seem to have worsened recently but than again he wasn't hands on when dd was a baby. I think he changed maybe 10 nappies in the 1st year. Although has done abit more since