Was I unreasonable??

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So last night I was completely exhausted and very emotional due to a number of things. I had arranged to meet DP after work and then go back to his.
He then said how he wanted to go for a couple of drinks with his friends at the local and then go back to his for dinner. I mentioned how tired I was and that I couldn't drink as I'm running a marathon on Sunday. He said he was also tired so we'd just have a couple and go home.
So we go to the pub and his friends say that they're going to go on to a bar. I reiterate that I can't drink and that I'm tired and feeling pretty upset about a few things. (Privately to him, not in front of the group) He then says that he really wants to go and can't I just come and not drink.
I have to admit I got quite pissed off at this point and said I'd just go home then and he could go out without me.
He agreed and this is what happened, I ended up walking home at 10pm on a Friday night.
I really need to apologise for being so rude and pissed off but was I being unreasonable?
I feel like he wasted my Friday night and instead I could have had a quite night with a friend.

YANBU for being upset, he essentially dumped you last minute for a better offer. (True you could have come with him but that wasn't what the two of you had planned and you made it clear you were too tired.)

I don't think either of you was being unreasonable really. You were tired and thinking about your marathon and he felt like going on the piss. I can't see why you didn't just say that you felt like going home and having a restful evening whilst cheerfully waving him off to have some fun with his mates.

Yanbu to be upset, you compromised and came to an agreement and then he changed the plans for a better offer.

I don't have a problem and it actually worked out quite well that I stayed at mine last night and he got to go out but we'd planned to have a quiet evening in and he essentially chose his friends over our plans.

I'd have been pissed off if my Friday night plans were changed at the last minute , even more so if I was knackered .

Good luck Sunday!

It was a no win situation for either of you really. Either you got your way and you both went back to his for a quiet night in, leaving him feeling resentful. Or he got his way and got you to stay out and you ended up feeling resentful.

To be honest I'd have suggested leaving it for a other night after he tried to talk me into going to a bar the first time - its obvious then you both have different expectations for the evening. You can't get pissed off at him for not wanting a quiet night like you did, especially when you didn't want a sociable evening like he did.

You were not unreasonable unless you flounced off at 10pm, rather than saying you were going home. And even then, you compromised for most of the evening.
However, just as it's fine for you to decide not to drink because you are running a marathon on Sunday, ( having agreed to meet in a bar) its also fine for him to want to party with friends at the end of the week - its possibly his way of releasing his stress.
No real need for a drama unless you felt he was being unsupportive over something fairly major. Were you upset because you didn't have a chance to talk to him, or because you were tired?
Is everything OK between you most of the time? What vI mean is, is this a one off, or are there lots of nights like this, culminating in you feeling let down?