or is Dh? re: dd1 bath

[RavioliOnToast]

I'm off out to the gym, have had both kids all day which is the usual but today was dhs day off.

I asked dh to bath dd1, his response was 'bath her, while looking after DD2, while you're out of the house'?.

My response was that yes he should bath her, but if he doesn't, I will have to bath her tomorrow, while watching DD2 and while he's out.

aibu to think he should bath dd1, why the fuck should I do.It in the morning...

That's a good point Fred, when dh is in sole charge I've never once given him any instructions I've just assumed that he will do it his way.

Fleecy it's not controlling to point out that the children need something. Neither is it beyond her husband's wit to ask for some pointers when he needs them. Otherwise it all becomes the wife's responsibility - she ends up doing all of the thinking and that's exhausting.

fleecy, it was more a sarcastic point I was trying to make, along the lines of how on earth will I manage if he cannot.

Fred, I was not trying to dictate what my husband chose to do when he was alone with the children, I asked him. He then gave a load of shit as to why he couldn't, if he'd said he had planned something else that would have been fine, but it was his reaction I was querying.

He ibu.

I do wonder why sahp just get on with these things and manage fine but some working parents often think its ridiculous to expect them to!

Ours are similarly aged and I must admit, we've been scheduling baths for when we're both in the house. Both DH and I would've reacted similarly to the other making that request. However, the toddler likes to run around screeching post-bath and make a meal out of being dressed, the 8 week old is unputdownable and I'm not a great deal of use physically thanks to SPD and section recovery. So it really does take both of us, and I certainly couldn't do it myself. I would literally lose a fight with a 2 year old right now. All of which may make it a bigger ask than it was for you.

He definitely needs more practice! A 3 year old can pretty much bath themselves he just needs to be in the same room.

I often wonder why it is that some parents think that their part is optional. He is being completely U.

I enjoy taking the DC out to buy cakes. I think I will chose only to do that with them from now on.