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WIBU to have said something to her?

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Flossyfloof · 10/04/2015 19:12

I have an acquaintance who I find a bit judgmental about other people, specifically how bright they are. I get the impression that she thinks that intellectually I am about on her level. We were having a discussion about a mutual interest and no less than 4 times she pulled me up on the use of a particular word which, admittedly was incorrect but is very accepted in normal conversation - along the lines of saying Hoover rather than vacuum. Most people probably know that it isn't quite correct but most of us say it (don't we? -say yes!). The fourth time she said something about only joking and I muttered that it could get a bit wearing, I am not sure if she heard me.
Today, several months later she made reference to someone else feeling the same as she does about this usage. The comment was directed at me but not in a nasty way. It really pissed me off, really I suppose because it had so pissed me off before so I said that in the end it could be just rude to keep on correcting people in that way. She just said "thanks", it obviously hit home a bit. I dont generally go out of my way to upset people but I do think it's rude to correct people all the time and I find it unnecessary. Am I a cow?

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monkeysaymoo · 10/04/2015 19:16

No you're not a cow at all she sounds rather annoying

Flossyfloof · 10/04/2015 19:17

Thanks I think it is just the way she is but yes it is a bit irritating. She is very kind in other ways though!

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addictedtosugar · 10/04/2015 19:34

Yep, I hoover my lino, before using a biro and sellotape to wrap a present.
She is being an arse, unless you work for bic/sellotape etc or their competitors, when it can actually become quite important.
You did her a favour.

DillyDayDream8 · 10/04/2015 19:35

What was the word?

monkeysaymoo · 10/04/2015 19:37

was it 'crapper'

Flossyfloof · 10/04/2015 19:54

Hahaha no! She has obviously read this because she has just texted to say she hopes she didn't offend me and would never wish to. Now I feel even more of a heel! It just smacks of point scoring and trying to make people feel small or at least a bit uncomfortable. I think she probably feels it is helping. i don't want to be helped!
I'll just come out and say it, I think it is unlikely she will see this. I am a big knitter and several times I used the word "wool" when I wasn't talking about wool, I was talking about various yarns, which were probably not wool. She does spinning so it is important to her, I suppose. Me, I don't give a donkey's.

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BullshitS70 · 10/04/2015 19:56

was it wankbank?

MorrisZapp · 10/04/2015 19:57

She pulled you up four times for saying 'wool' instead of 'yarn'?

This person cannot exist.

sooperdooper · 10/04/2015 20:00

I crochet and knit and she's being daft, it's completely accepted to use wool/yarn interchangeably

Flossyfloof · 10/04/2015 20:01

No it wasn't wankbank either. I do need to drop that into our next conversation though. In fact it is my mission now to get that into our next conversation.
Morris, yes indeedy, it's so. The first couple of times I just smiled then I wanted to rip her head off, she is very inoffensive though,she just must have a bee in her bonnet about it and now I have one too but in a different way.
I would have no problem with anyone saying that they always use the correct terminology but it was the correctional way she did it. Several times. Actually I do have a problem with it because I am Always Right.

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Floggingmolly · 10/04/2015 20:04

I don't even know the difference .

Flossyfloof · 10/04/2015 20:04

I think it was just a bit of lack of social awareness really, it just got right up my nose.
Sooper, I think we all do, don't we? We all know what we mean and it is rare indeed that you knit with pure wool anyway.
Thanks my lovelies, for reinforcing the fact that I am not in the wrong. I knew I wasnt...I do feel sorry now if she has been worrying but if it carried on I think it might have got nasty...

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Hissy · 10/04/2015 20:05

Yarn sounds American, wool is wool, even if it's not.

don't change... Do it on purpose now Grin

Flossyfloof · 10/04/2015 20:06

Molly do you want to know? Only that wool is wool, from a sheep and most balls of stuff you buy to knit with are not wool, they are usually some kind of man made fibres or a mixture.
Bloody hell, she would have a field day with you!!

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Flossyfloof · 10/04/2015 20:08

Hissy I did change a few times because it got on my tits so much and that really annoyed me even more!. So bloody rude when you are in the middle of a conversation. It just doesn't bloody matter, does it? I am winding myself up now (do you see what I did there?) if I didn't have my pyjamas on I would jump in the car go round to her house and give her a piece of my mind.

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MissPenelopeLumawoo2 · 10/04/2015 20:09

Is that a bit like beer & ale? I got terribly told off at a home brew shop once because I said I wanted to make ale when in fact my recipe was for beer! I just humoured the person, because I thought their horror at my wrong usage was funny. YANBU to be irritated by it though!

Flossyfloof · 10/04/2015 20:10

Exactly that, Miss P. Where was your shop? I will go round there afterwards and give them a piece of my mind too, if you like.

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Floggingmolly · 10/04/2015 20:14

Oh, ok Blush. I've actually never heard anyone refer to a ball of yarn, though; it's perfectly acceptable to call it a ball of wool. Send her over to Pedant's Corner with the rest of the clench jawed sticklers Grin

happygirl87 · 10/04/2015 20:19

I know it's called yarn, but the word makes me think of a weathered old sailor, "spinning a yarn" in front of the fire - I can't ever hear it in the normal wool sense! Grin

Scholes34 · 10/04/2015 20:20

There's wool and there's real wool.

MissPenelopeLumawoo2 · 10/04/2015 20:30

Sadly the shop is long gone, Flossy. Probably not enough real ale enthusiasts, just a load of beer heads sullying their premises. Thanks for the offer though! Grin

Kitsandkids · 10/04/2015 20:30

I always say wool! I know technically it's yarn, but it feels more British somehow to say wool! Grin

Blueskybrightstar · 10/04/2015 20:33

Hats with all the recent wool/yarn threads on here??

Blueskybrightstar · 10/04/2015 20:34

What's, not hats, hate my damn keyboard!

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