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AIBU?

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To test dh?

10 replies

pleasebenice · 10/04/2015 18:20

Dc was born 13 weeks ago. Dh works long hours in a high stress job. Hes amazing with dc when hes home. But doesn't see dc when she's cranky/in pain (teething) generally being a 13 week old baby. He gets happy, smiley, clean, fed dc when he gets home from work. When hes off (just at weekends) hes busy doing stuff around the house or we'll be at dm house and he'll be doing something with my db ect. He doesn't really see the hard part. But he really is great with playing with/entertaining dc.

AIBU to be sat in the bath, listening to dc cry (though not full on wailing) and dh try to soothe her to make sure he actually can? I know she's just woke up from a nap and will be cranky, but not hungry. Should i gp down and help? Or let him figure it out on his own?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 10/04/2015 18:22

I'm not sure it's a test so much as allowing him to be a Dad. The more he does, the more he'll learn.

Satsumafairy · 10/04/2015 18:23

I wouldn't see it as a test. Just let him look after her and it'll be a new experience for him. If you rush down and take over all the time he won't have the opportunity to work it out his way.

Yeasayer · 10/04/2015 18:46

Absolutely not. Parenting means taking the good with not so good. Totally agree with pp - the more you let him do the more he'll be able to help. Enjoy your bath!

DeladionInch · 10/04/2015 18:51

That's not a test. That's giving him the time and space to learn to be a parent. You've had your turn, now it's his.

Enjoy your bath Brew

TheoriginalLEM · 10/04/2015 18:51

YABU, you should have got some earplugs =- have some Flowers instead. It sounds like you are a great mum, but by Christ, its knackering isnt it.

Joyfulldeathsquad · 10/04/2015 18:52

Leave him to it.

OhWotIsItThisTime · 10/04/2015 19:03

Leave him to it. Otherwise you rushing in is implying he can't cope, and I'm sure he can. You should also ask for some time to yourself - you go for a coffee and a read. Or he takes the baby for a walk why you watch tv.

pleasebenice · 10/04/2015 19:05

Thank you guys. Glad to know I'm not being a horrible mum haha. Dh managed to soothe dc Smile just put on a face mask Grin feels amazing to feel human again! You're spot on theoriginal is completely knackering!

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FenellaFellorick · 10/04/2015 19:05

He is her father. He needs to be equally capable of caring for her. Stay in the bath.

Littlecaf · 10/04/2015 19:51

I know how you feel. I have to stop myself from doing the same. It's not a test, just you're both learning.

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