To be pissed off with my 15 year old Nephew?

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It's DH's Nephews 15th Birthday today. We sent him a card and sent £20 Birthday money, as we do for all Nieces and Nephews Birthdays and Christmas presents.

DH called his Brother tonight to speak to Nephew, but was told he wouldn't come to the phone. He could hear him in the background, so he was definitely there. DH asked DBrother if he'd received his Birthday money, he has apparently. He also refused to speak when my in laws (his grandparents) called. AIBU to think he is bloody rude? (Just to mention there's no additional needs etc.)

DBil's answer when DH said about it being a bit rude was "well, he's 15, what are you going to do'. Not send any more bloody money, that's what, ungrateful little sod.

I continue to be amazed at how often it is considered to be ok that kids behave in extraordinarily rude and unpleasant ways just because they are teenagers. Is it really now considered to be acceptable and normal to be rude, thoughtless and ungrateful when you hit puberty. I never behaved like this. Neither did my sister, my cousins or 95% or my friends.
Makes me mad.

Sorry, i don't think thats rude.

Well the key is the response of your BIL. He was quite blasé about DN not coming to the phone. Clearly he has not brought him up to say thank you. I'd still send the birthday money though, no need for you to be mean - you can't possibly think that not sending £20 a year later will teach a teenager a lesson.

Yes-he was rude.
Perhaps they had had a row about something else and it was more directed at his Dad than you-but still rude.

How is refusing to speak to your grandparents not rude? Someone sends you a very generous gift you say thanks. Not refuse to come to the phone like a stroppy 4 yr old. He's 15. Presumably considers himself old enough to go out on his own and spend the money on whatever he chooses.
He can manage a 30 second phone conversation to show some bloody gratitude.

If he was my kid I'd be gathering up all that cash and posting it back to the kind people that took the time to send it to him.

My cousin aged 5 kicked off massively having received only one goal instead of two. So bad was his tantrum that his party was rescheduled and he was sent to bed. He is now a hard working respectful 21yr old man.

We take no shit in our family and we have no brats. Funny that.