To expect at least a text??

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We have a 10 month old baby who has a chest infection and has been pretty difficult the last few days. Partner always talks about how much he misses us in the day and wishes he could be at home with us.

Today my partner has gone to London for a work appointment (we live 2.5 hours away). He left the house at 5ish to get the 6am train. I woke up with the baby at 7am and sent him a text saying good luck today. Its now 4.20 and I've heard nothing from him at all.

Aibu to think he's just gone off to London without a second thought even to ask how DS is todsy, and that all the stuff about how much he misses us in the day is clearly just rubbish?

I don't think yabu to expect a text at the very least particularly if DS isn't well. Does he normally text during the day?

Perhaps he's busy and hasn't had time.

He does normally text in the day and call at lunch sometimes. I know today is a really busy day for him so I wasn't expecting much but he left early enough to have had 30 mins at the station waiting for his train then a 2.5 hour train journey... I don't see how he couldn't find 10 seconds in all that time?

He won't get in till 11pm as they bookwd a late train to go for dinner after the appointment, so won't even see Ds today.

I think you're overthinking it because you are worried about your baby and probably tired too

If he normally des I would really let him off this. He might not have had signal on the train, he certainly wouldn't have on the tube, he may have been prepping for the meeting.

If I had a penny for everytime DH has text me and i thought I'd replied to him but haven't. Maybe its just a simple case of that? Maybe text him again to ask how everything is going and let him know how DS is doing today?

Hope DS gets better soon

You are having a tough day, I know, but you know those days when you don't even have time to go to the loo, let alone have a drink? Maybe he's having one of those.

He's busy

He knows DS is fine because he knows you're with him

He knows you'll get in touch with him if you need to (which currently you don't)

YABU

I think you are overthinking. After such an early start he was almost certainly focussing fully on the meeting and has probably been extremely busy since. Life does tend to get compartmentalised, and I regularly find that when I'm at work I forget about something important I planned to do like pay a household bill, just because my brain has settled into a separate groove. Obviously for your DH you and your child override everything, but when he knows that you will call him if there's a problem it's understandable that he might not get round to calling you.

I don't think yabu but I know how he feels sometimes. When I have a very busy day at work I don't have a moment to myself even to look at my phone. Otoh I totally understand how tiring and worrying it can be looking after a poorly baby. Hope she feels better soon.

Sorry, I hope he feels better soon, not she.

Could be he's sent one but you haven't received it. That happened to me recently a friend texted me and I never yet got it

YABU. It's not like that when you go for work appointments. You have to be totally focussed on what you are doing, and it's usually full-on - there is no down time. It's not that he isn't thinking about you both, he's just having to do what he's paid to do.