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Do we have to wait for birthdays and christmas now we have a DS

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farewellfigure · 09/04/2015 15:35

I've just read about the new LEGO Warner Bros game. Apparently the info has been leaked so it's not necessarily correct, but basically it'll be like Disney Infinity and you can import certain LEGO characters into a game to SAVE THE WORLD.

Before we had DS (and had money!) if we wanted a game, or whatever, we just went and bought it. We didn't wait till one of has had a birthday to go and buy the new Zelda or whatever. But now we have DS we're going to have to wait aren't we? What kind of lesson would it be to him if we just go and buy it. I suppose we could say Mummy or Daddy have been saving up. That might work. Oh I am going to want that game SO BADLY. DS won't even get a look-in!

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dementedpixie · 09/04/2015 15:39

of course you don't have to wait. If you want it and can afford it then buy whatever you want

HagOtheNorth · 09/04/2015 15:40

You've got several years before he'll notice. Go ahead!

YouMakeMyHeartSmile · 09/04/2015 15:41

Buy whatever you want whenever you want if you can afford it!

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farewellfigure · 09/04/2015 15:48

Argh it is true. There's a trailer video now and it's just made me want it even more. It's not due out till SEPTEMBER. Sob.

Anyway, I know we could just go and buy it, but it just seems so rash. We went through a phase when DS was small of just not buying anything for us, ever. We hardly ever go out as a couple. I guess we've got out of the habit of spending money on frivolous stuff for us. Or essentials for that matter. I desperately need new pants (!) but just haven't been bothered. Maybe a teenie tiny splurge is in order. The thing is, we can tell DS till we're blue in the face that the LEGO game is for us, but obviously he'll think otherwise. He's 7!

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YouMakeMyHeartSmile · 09/04/2015 15:51

Don't buy it then, your choice . Having a 7 year old wouldn't stop me. You can all enjoy it.

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farewellfigure · 09/04/2015 15:54

Heck, we probably wouldn't leave the house for two weeks. Well, apart from school and work etc. No, we'll have to buy it, then DS can have 1 hour screen time and DH and I can play it for hours when he's gone to bed.

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HagOtheNorth · 09/04/2015 15:56

7? I thought from your post that he was more recent.
Buy it as a shared present for all of you.

glittertits · 09/04/2015 16:00

What kind of lesson? The lesson that people who work hard can treat themselves from time to time, and that there is nothing wrong with spending what you can afford!

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farewellfigure · 09/04/2015 16:00

hehe Hag we've had him a while. I agree, my post implies he's recent.

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IsItMeOr · 09/04/2015 16:01

My rule on whether to buy things DH and I want - as the adults - is that if we want it and can afford it, we can have it.

Rules for 6yo DS are a little different, but he has lots to learn yet. He even has to accept that we won't allow him to spend his pocket money on absolutely anything.

It's okay for there to be different rules for the adults and children in a family.

So, I say go for it. And go buy some new pants .

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farewellfigure · 09/04/2015 16:01

Thank you glitter you're right. I guess DH have got out of the habit of treating ourselves as I guess your perspective changes once you have had a child. You're right. We'll buy it.

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eosmum · 09/04/2015 16:02

Where's this trailer then? Might have a similar dilemma myself:)

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farewellfigure · 09/04/2015 16:03

Yes IsItMeOr DS does struggle a bit when we say 'no you're not buying ANOTHER water pistol with your pocket money' or 'that horrible piece of tat'. He hasn't yet uttered the immortal words, 'But it's my money' but I guess it'll come.

And yes, I'll go and buy myself some pants at the weekend. And some new socks too.

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glittertits · 09/04/2015 16:03

Glad to hear it farewell! I bought the Sims 4 after a similar debate recently

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farewellfigure · 09/04/2015 16:05

www.comingsoon.net/games/trailers/427523-warner-bros-interactive-reveals-toys-to-life-game-lego-dimensions

ARGH I've just seen it will be £89. OK that needs some serious consideration.

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IsItMeOr · 09/04/2015 16:08

Oh yes, to the guns. DS has ASD, violent outbursts and war obsession, so we are somewhat paranoid about what he has.

Think I may need to have a look at game too...I love Lego.

Meow75 · 09/04/2015 16:14

Well, you have until September to save up. Loads of time!!!

Littlemonstersrule · 09/04/2015 16:47

No but then I don't subscribe to new items at birthdays and christmas only as it makes for a boring life.

DaveMinion · 09/04/2015 17:22

Buy it! I love Lego games.

Is sims4 any good? I'm umming and ahhing whether to buy it myself.

DisappointedOne · 09/04/2015 17:29

WTF? Why would you have to wait for xmas/birthdays anyway? We don't with DD (4). We don't do xmas/easter though. And she's completely free to spend her money on whatever she likes (but once it's gone, it's gone). We all have birthdays quite close to xmas though so make a point of spreading stuff out through the year. Eg, DD will have a new bike for her half birthday this year as she's outgrown her old on in a major way (and the sales are on at the moment).

ineedabodytransplant · 09/04/2015 18:24

Bit off subject but, my grandson is 8 and loves his Infinity sets. Even though he knows I would buy him another/any set if he asked, which he never does, he has said if he does little jobs for people will they pay him! So for instance, yesterday he did a few little clearing up jobs so I gave him £1. He needs £15 for the set he's looking at so the £1 went straight into the little container he has. I had a few coins in my pocket so just gave them to him and he wanted to know what I wanted doing He told me earlier he has £9.79 now so getting there.
I just know he'll want the Lego sets.

fredfredgeorgejnr · 09/04/2015 18:29

I've never understood the only get stuff on your birthdays / christmas - it makes those occasions so focused on the child, which isn't a sane life lesson - once you're in your 20's no-one will give a toss about your birthday.

Buying stuff you want, when you can afford it, when it's sensible, is a much better life lesson than deny yourself what you want and then get into debt and depression at christmas.

2rebecca · 09/04/2015 18:45

We've generally just bought stuff when we wanted/ needed it. We've never gone overboard with the kids at birthdays and xmas so they get stuff at other times of year if needed/wanted too, useful as they both have birthdays near Christmas.

ElmerRocks · 09/04/2015 19:04

If you can afford it, then get it.
DH works bloody hard for his money, and rarely spends any on himself, and recently bought a new game for himself. Then came home and started trying to justify it to myself and the kids. I think he feels a tad guilty that he spent a lot of money on a game when it could have gone elsewhere... BUT we are okay for money at the moment, and he just got paid a lot of overtime too, so it's unlikely that we will even miss that money.

In general in this house, presents are mainly bought for Xmas and birthdays, but, we don't not buy anything any other time. Sometimes we will see a toy in the sales when we go shopping and pick it up and the kids can have it that day. Other times it's saved for birthdays. Birthdays tend to be for the bigger things anyway.

Everyone deserves a treat now and then. If you feel a tad guilty about it, get your DS a little something he will appreciate, maybe a decent water gun so he doesn't have to spend his pocket money on a cheaper one

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