Would it be childish of me to blow him off?

[Angel1983]

Had a stupid argument yesterday with my boyfriend. I thought we had got over it but evidently not.

He was supposed to text me to let me know what time was convenient for me to come over to his for dinner but he didn't text me. I texted him once it became apparent that I wasn't getting an invite over to ask if he could spare me some time to talk tomorrow. The response I got was 'yeah, I can do that'. No apologies/explanation for not texting me. He is now completely ignoring me.

WIBU not to go round to his house tomorrow to talk to him and instead take my friend up on her offer of a night out with the girls? And just not tell him this and leave him hanging like he did to me last night. I am tempted but I don't want to be too childish!

Any opinions welcomed!

The thing about that emotional cripple nonsense is that it quite misogynist. All women are bitches don't cha know? Just because one man treated me poorly doesn't mean all men are shits.

Get rid, life's too short.

NO such thing as "the one who changes him'. If he's a dick, he's a dick, dick's don't change.

Congratulations, you're now free to find someone better. Or get pissed-up and enjoy being free of him.

'Bird'? That alone is reason enough to pick up your stuff and wave him goodbye. Preferably before you blow him off out!

Oh lordy, dump him. Dump him now.

I also thought blow job but I am v rude

Surely you are both too old to be playing mind games?

Translation: 'I treated you like crap because I don't want a relationship with you, but I haven't got the maturity to admit that, so I'm going to give you some bullshit about how this is all women's fault'.

Ditch, immediately.

Err that means he's shagging someone else IMO.

What an arse.

You can't change someone. Only that person can change themselves. Doesn't sound like that is on the horizon. He is still very bitter.

He has classified you as "another bird". You can do a lot better than that.

People don't change. I know lots of people who have held on to this belief that they can 'change' their partner for better but, I'm sorry, it doesn't happen.

It's also not a very fair attitude - how would you feel if he was expecting you to change?

He sounds like an ass. I would just move on. He's playing games, you deserve better. x

Bumblebee - I didn't mean I expected him
to change. I guess I was hoping that he would like me enough to drop his guard I suppose. I hope that makes sense.

I think TRexing has it actually. It's such a limp thing to say that there can only be something behind it and I believe that is it.
Have you ditched him yet?

Send him a smiths album and a bunch of flowers and get rid.

OP, are you in the North East by any chance? Sounds like you're dating my bloke! My bloke has played the "I won't let another woman mind fuck me" card, complete with silent treatment games (hence my username), blowing hot & cold, et al.

Blimey.
Run for hills.
And don't look back.

Silent Treatment - I have just moved back to the North East from Leeds. I hope we are not dating the same man!

oh FFS. Is it Durham?

YWBU to think you can be the one to change him. Move on. If he wants to change, and seeks you out, YWBR to give him a chance.

But if he is currently a lump of resentful emotional shit over an ex, leave him to his misery.

Silent Treatment - County Durham (adverse twice) not Durham City - I'm freaking out a bit now.

What on earth - I meant Derwentside not adverse twice!

Does his name begin with L?

No. Thankfully. Sounds like they could be twins though!

Am agog here...

But yeah - move on -life's too short

Suggest Angel and Silent dump both blokes, and go hang out together.