to think we shouldn't have to bribe DSD into seeing us?

[AlmondAmy]

DSD is 8. DP has a court order but his exW is unsupportive of contact and has recently been supporting DSD in not coming for contact. He goes to collect her or calls her and DSD asks what we'd be doing if she comes. If it doesn't interest her, she won't come. He went to collect her on Saturday and was bribing her with how she should come and see how many Easter eggs she has etc.

There is no question of us doing normal things like food shopping if she's here. It's full on entertainment and days out and even then she still often doesn't come the following time. She hasn't been for 9 weeks now but next week it's her birthday and she 'thinks she'll manage coming for the day' at the weekend. AIBU to think that we shouldn't have to bribe her to come and that it isn't sustainable?

Lots of children don't like visiting the NRP when they have gone on to have more children. They can feel replaced and resentful. Most step parents naturally favour their own children and the treatment of both is very different.

Rather than blaming the child, her dad and mum should be looking for ways to combat this and ensure she feels secure. She is obviously unhappy at your house and her dad needs to get to the root of why that is.

sauvignon has hit the nail right on the head.