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AIBU?

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Original poster

to just not give a damn about work anymore

14 replies

nervousnelly1001 · 08/04/2015 20:26

I have a well paying job which is convenient to my home, has got good holidays and allows me to work flexible hours to suit my family life. All lovely so far. The thing is I don't like working there because I can see things taking a turn for the worse - they won't hire extra people to cope with increasing demand, they care little for staff well being, the organisation itself is getting more dysfunctional by the day, things are just getting more difficult in general, staff feel over worked and unappreciated.
I feel I want to stick my head in the sand and ignore all that, do my work, disengage from colleagues negativity about the place, draw my pay and be thankful that I have a job that suits my personal circumstances.
My friends think I'm crazy and that the place will drive me mad eventually, that I should try to get a job in a better place. AIBU?

OP posts:
Nolim · 08/04/2015 20:29

If you are unhappy anout work why mot explore an exit plan? You can look around to see if there is something better.

FiftyShadesOfNifty · 08/04/2015 20:42

I think you'd be doing the right thing by just cracking on and ignoring the politics. Sounds like you've got a good thing.

Disengaging doesn't have to damage your performance but it might save your sanity.

Jossysgiants · 08/04/2015 20:49

I'm in a very similar situation OP and have stuck it out for ages. I find that disengaging is the only way to cope but it has also made me feel unhappy and lethargic. So today I accepted a new job- less money, less flexibility but hopefully I will be able to engage with work again. I think it depends on your personality and how well you can compartmentalise and be hard headed to some extent about your reasons for doing the job.

Iggly · 08/04/2015 20:50

Yanbu

Do you work where I do?!

redexpat · 08/04/2015 20:51

I'd disengage, and update my CV. Just in case. Also join linkedin.

daisychain01 · 08/04/2015 21:00

Don't forget to consider 'the grass is always greener' effect - the majority of workplaces will have office politics, there will always be nice people and those you would happily strangle!

If they are paying you a reasonable salary for the job and holiday pay, and you aren't particularly into a 'high octane' career, then I would stay put, provided you can keep a good work-life balance.

No harm in massively embellishing updating your profile on LinkedIn and over time see what's out there in the marketplace. Don't rock any boats if you need stable employment, but see if any vacancies appeal to you.

ArgentinianMalbec · 08/04/2015 21:23

Ha! I think we must work together OP! I think a lot of businesses run like this; so the grass may not be greener. Same shit, different place and all that.
But yes, I have kind of disengaged. Getting on with what I have to do but my heart isn't in it anymore. The money is ok and they're flexible though so I'm sticking with it until I can get a nice part time job I don't have to think about

VoteForAlanBstard · 08/04/2015 21:29

I think I work with you too! Our place has has such mismanagement from the top that the majority of competent staff are leaving in droves.

The disengaging has worked ok for me for a while apart from a few wobbles until recently - new boss has arrived and has taken my disengagement as a sign that I dont care and dont work hard enough (not true). The stress of this on top of the job itself has meant I'm having to seriously look elsewhere. Sad

RaggyAnnie · 08/04/2015 21:37

Yanbu but I wish you the best of luck. I work in that place too but a couple of years ahead. Things have already taken a turn for the worse, staff are dropping like flies through stress ( myself included) and the good holidays, pay etc. are being removed through changes to pay and conditions. There is no harm in having a contingency plan.

ssd · 08/04/2015 21:39

your workplace sounds exactly like me, the only difference is I get £6.50 an hour Confused

am off to top myself....

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nervousnelly1001 · 08/04/2015 22:10

Thanks for the feedback wise people of MN. I think I'll go for a combination of disengaging to protect my sanity and daydreaming about escape for now. Very aware of the grass is greener phenomenon, but might keep an eye out all the same, just to keep me going for now. Short term plan is to try for second child, I have fertility issues so not sstraightforward, but it will give me something else to focus on for a while.

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ScOffasDyke · 08/04/2015 22:16

Public sector? Me too....

MargoReadbetter · 08/04/2015 22:16

This is so depressing. I see this more and more. All these damned cuts everywhere and the pressure on those remaining to cope with it and even smile in the process because they have a job.

FiftyShadesOfNifty · 08/04/2015 22:16

Stay put, make the most of the maternity and then see.

You have other priorities, don't worry about work now. Concentrate on being happy and healthy outside of work, make the flexibility work for you when you need it and take the emotion out of it all.

It's a means to an end right now and sounds like as much as you'd love a happy, fulfilling, enjoyable job, this will do for the meantime whiles you focus on growing your family.

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