WIBU to send the kids to jump on DH and spoil his lie in?

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I am shattered. Every morning the kids get up by 6.30am - usually earlier. Once I am awake, I can't get back to sleep unless I have total quiet. DH buggers off to the bottom bunk when the kids come in, then gets back into bed and goes to sleep immediately as soon as they go downstairs. I've now been up for an hour and a half, cleaned the kitchen which he left in a right state and had breakfast. He is still snoring.

WIBU to send the kids up there? I wouldn't mind if just once a month he actually got up and left me alone to sleep!

How often does he lie in? If it's more than once a week, YANBU!

You should tell him you want more equal sharing of morning duties. Probably not when he's just woken up though.

Definitely not. Make them think its their idea though! And demanded tomorrow's lie-in for yourself.

He does need to agree to do something to help you get some sleep. I think you are entitled to do this but I think you should have a calm discussion of your needs first, with the threat that if he doesn't help you, then that will be the consequence. Then do it every bloody morning until he realises the unfairness of it.

I'm the same as you but, you need to tell him to alternate and stay in your bed regardless of whether you can sleep or not. You might find just getting to lay there is relaxing. I want dd to go on jump on dh right now because I'm annoyed that he didn't get in until 3.30am after going for 'a few beers'. IABU as it is the first time he has been out since Christmas, and before that, the previous Christmas. Still, he woke me up and I'm now grumpy.

How old are the DC? Can they go downstairs by themselves?

We've just got our two youngest 4 & 2 a gro-clock which I was sceptical about but desperate enough to try anything. They were waking between 5 and 5:30 everyday. Now they stay in their room until 7, or later if they forget to look at the clock. It took about a fortnight of taking them back to bed and reminding them about the clock for it to sink in.
I set up a game and a drink in their room incase they wake earlier.

You need to tell DH you need a lie in. Why don't you escape to the bottom bunk and shove some earplugs in?

YANBU. I hope you've done it by now, but if he's still lying there then send in the missiles.