Posting here for traffic. Possibly a stupid question but is this abusive?

[Scared123A1]

My partner kicked me into a table tonight. I'm not hurt, although my neck is sore and I'm a bit shaken up. She's been aggressive in the past, occasionally physical. I don't know what I'm asking really I just needed to tell someone but not someone irl. I know domestic violence can happen in same sex relationships but I sort of feel like I'm making a big deal out of nothing. Sorry if this is rambling and doesn't make much sense.

No, you didn't provoke her, no matter what she might say. She is 100% to blame for hurting you. If it's happened before, you should leave the relationship. DV isn't just about hitting either. You may have things thrown at you, you may be pushed or shoved, you may be grabbed and shaked. You might be verbally abused before you're physically attacked - called names, told you are useless etc etc. There might be an apology, there might not. Either way it is her problem and you are not going to be able to change her.

scared how are you this evening? Did you manage to call any of the helplines for advice or even speak to anyone in real life?

It's abuse, plain and simple and I hope you have got some practical support and advice from some of the great resources people have posted on here.

Thank you everyone for replying. I called the broken rainbow helpline and they were great. My partner was very apologetic yesterday, I do love her but something feels different. I'm not willing to take this anymore so I'm trying to figure out my next move. I've decided that it might be a good idea to tell someone irl what's going on too, although the thought of that scares the crap out of me because I've kept it secret for so long.

Good that something feels different. Keep that feeling. That is what will give you the guts to get out of a crap situation. Your eyes have been opened now.

Please do tell someone in rl. Admitting there is a problem, is the first step to resolving it.

Good luck.

Well done OP, that's a really big step. Yes speaking to people in RL is hard but it's definitely worth it - people will probably be more supportive than you think.

Scared123A1, it's time to move on. She is a bully abuser. It's not right that you only felt safe earlier because she was asleep.

second and third to talking to someone IRL.

My dd's father was very apologetic the first time he hit me and like a fool I believed him, but it didn't stop the violence. The only way to stop violence is to leave.