To be thoroughly peed off with family member

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AIBU - I'm literally shaking with rage...

Visited extended family over the weekend and relatives from other parts of the uk were there, one of whom was a couple with a 2yr old. We've since found out the 3 of them were yakking their guts up the night before with a stomach bug, but made a miraculous recovery at 8:00am on Saturday morning and decided it would be fine to bring their virus-ridden selves to see us all.

The house was full of kids, 2 adults who are immunocompromised (chemo) and my 9 week old baby. The 2 year old was everywhere and covered everything with slobber, including most of the buffet table.

Why are some people so bastard stupid? My 4 yr old has been really quiet today with no appetite and now I'm waiting to see if anything happens. I'll be fricking livid if she's poorly... AIBU or is this acceptable in the real world?

YANBU End of.

YANBU! When I was pregnant I caught a stomach bug from a member of DP's family doing the same thing. They might not think it's a big deal but to others it can be potentially very dangerous.

YANBU of course, that is shocking. Did they know that 2 of the guests are immunocompromised?

YANBU. This was the bane of my life when OH was on chemo - it was bad enough that we had a small child and therefore plenty of viruses hanging around anyway. I would have shredded said family member a new one.

Thank you, thank you, thank you... I feel like I'm being a bitch but now I know I'm not...

There were over 30 of us there - no wonder these sorts of bugs spread like wildfire when w@nkers like this are in charge of children. There is a child at my daughters nursery who has cancer and we have to stay off nursery for 2 days after symptoms have stopped - of course I am more than happy to do this if it develops into anything - but for some people this could cause real trouble with employers, not to mention the problems it could cause if they caught it despite the period of confinement.

Some people just don't think of the bigger picture, it's all self, self, self...

Lithewire - yes, they know alright - we are quite close as a family (getting less so as the seconds tick on I feel!!)

Very selfish op totally agree.

YANBU a very thoughtless thing to do, hope you're all ok.

YANBU. I hope you all stay heathy. I had this recently when a friend turned up to a children's party with a child suffering from hand, foot and mouth disease. She was adamant that her DD was fine, but it was very obvious that she was not.

Really inconsiderate behaviour, I'm afraid!

I would be livid. Terrible behavior.

I once went to a garden party and the host's dc had chicken pox. She didn't let anyone know, I was pregnant with no immunity. Luckily I didn't catch anything, but why would you do this?

Selfish..

how did you find out?

Someone should of told them not to come.
or go, as soon as they found out.
Not on!

V selfish of them!

I didn't go to my antenatal exercise class a few weeks ago because my dh had d&v. There was no way I'd risk passing it to all the ladies in my class - some due babies any day and many with little ones at home. It cost me money not to go as I'd paid but I don't care - I'd rather be out of pocket than pass on illness!

I hate it when folk come into work sick as I'm pregnant. So selfish

I started a thread about this just yesterday after visiting a friend on Friday who neglected to tell me her twins had a stinking cold. 10 week old baby now has cold and I had to cancel plans (seeing a friend with a premmie baby!)

Yanbu.

We went to a birthday party recently and the birthday boy's mum told a when we arrived that he had been up all night being sick. During the party be was running to be sick.

I was furious. Lucky for us we had just had the bug so we didn't get it but I know a few of the other kids and parents did. We kept dd off for a few days to make sure we didn't pass it on too.

Some people do not believe or understand that you can be infectious for 24 hrs after. No matter what they are told they think it's over reaction rather than real. People visit in hospital. You would not believe how often it happens.

It is immensely annoying when this happens! DS2 was a very poorly baby and we had to be really careful with him, a 'friend' once turned up with her child full of a stinking cold/temperature etc. When I said she couldn't stay she was all indignant and 'its just a cold' even though she knew a cold would put him in hospital......... Grrrrrr still annoyed 4.5 years later!

I hope you're all sleeping soundly with no sign of illness x

YANBU at all!

YANBU at all. I wasat soft play last week and came face to face with a child with chicken pox!

Wow - some people are really selfish, aren't they? It's utterly horrific how dim some people are - I always warn people even if we have been poorly a week or so ago to give them the option, and I'm never annoyed if they say they'd rather not come round/meet up. You never know what's going on in the background of their lives. Glad I'm in good company and so far not one YABU... Thought I was too precious, maybe I'm not!

I think this particular incident occurred because they didn't want to miss out on seeing family and having a free meal or 5, but we are really not that desperate to see them.

My immediate family were furious, as for the rest of them, I think they're too loyal to say anything. We found out because my dad asked how they'd all been at the get-together. We'd all been there 2 hours at this point!

Nothing untoward with either of my two so far - fingers crossed please!!

YANBU. Why do people do this?