AIBU to think it's rude not to see your guest/friend/relative to the door when they leave?

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Yesterday got me thinking. I went to visit my friend with a few others from our group. I was the first one to leave, I said we were going and started to gather my things and round up the children, made some small talk at the door to the room wondering when my friend was going to get up. She didn't so we left.

I admit I found this very rude not to see me to the door. I would never dream of doing this to any visitor to my home. I have just remembered my sister does it too and I find it odd and rude (but then she isn't great with any etiquette anyway).

AIBU to think it is rude to do this or am I just too formal or old fashioned to think you say goodbye to a guest at the door?

Very rude!

There a Scottish phrase "I'll see Ye past the hen's meat" which basically means "I'll see you out"

Yanbu it's very rude not to see your guests off.

That is a wee bit odd. I assume she wasn't breast feeding an infant at the time it something?

I always see people out. I need to lock the door behind them anyway.

Yes, I think this sounds rude too, though fairly minor and not something I'd lose sleep over all else being equal. Mind you, I tend to take it too far the other way and say bye at the door five million times and wave until the person is long out of sight.

YANBU. It would feel odd to wave someone off from my sofa!

I do and generally wave them off too.
Only exception is sometimes my sister but usually when she's just popped in briefly and only if I'm busy doing cooking, washing, etc. (or in the middle of a programme!).

It is rude, unless you'd let yourself in too. Anyone who knocked to enter, gets shown out. So basically anyone except those who live there.

Except if I'm the midst of an emergency/attending to newborn/clearing up domestic disaster/at critical point of cooking dinner.

My whole family tends to escort visitors out. It leads to a crush in the hall and may, inadvertently, give the impression that we are keen to see the back of them.

This is one of those things that I haven't ever thought about before - but yes, I usually see people to the door. The only exception I can think of is one of our good pals who is round very regularly.

Yes it's a bit odd - I'm assuming there wasn't a reason (friend breastfeeding or had sleeping baby on her, for example).

I never seen mine off.

My family just walk in without knocking and then leave and I just sit where I am sitting. I think they would wonder what is wrong with me if I walked to the door with them. They do the same.

People who I aren't so close to I do, but it is very very rare I have people round who I am not super close to.

No sleeping or BF baby. Just all sat down together while kids played.

It just felt very much like she just didn't give a stuff tbh (and is the latest in a line of petty things where I am feeling uncertain).

Sister has never done it so I don't tend to think about it as much but it does feel weird to walk out of someone else's house alone. Even when our front door was in the front room I'd still see people to the door.

If both of us are here at least one of us shows a guest out - and we both stand when people are leaving to say goodbye.
Mostly both of us go to the door though to say goodbye to departing guests - even if it is close family.
Wouldn't sit right with me to not even bother getting up when someone was leaving!

My db and sil do this all the time, don't think they have ever seen me out in 10 years. I am used to it now but not something I would do.

In that situation it sounds rude.

Family just walk in here (or knock then open the door if they're not expected) and mostly they don't get seen out at the door unless they are the only visitors.

Friends I'd usually see to the door.

FIL and DH banned MIL and I from seeing each other to the door as we always ended up chatting about something for 30 minutes stood on the step :)

I think it would be very rude if you'd been alone with her. As it was, she had several other guests who were staying on after you, which I think dilutes some of the guest/host norms somewhat. I'm not sure that I'd have found it very rude if a host left a bunch of other people to walk me to the door, especially if I was one of a succession of guests leaving individually.

I think it was rude.

I see everyone out. I have told my kids off before for letting their friends leave without walking them to the door and saying goodbye.

I even walk the nanny to the door and say goodbye, and she has a key and is here everyday to look after the kids after school.

I don't walk my family to the door, no. They know the way in and out of our house!

Anyone else, yes.

YANBU I always make sure I show guests to the door. and then breathe a sigh of relief/fart loudly

Rude!! They have no manners.

YANBU
The thing that annoys me the most is when people do not turn the telly off when you arrive at their house.

Oh that pisses me off too middle and when you arrive with children they just turn the kids channels on for them, every time. MIL, SIL and my sister do this. It's like they just want to shut the children up and not have to interact with them. In fact, a while ago BIL mentioned about us bringing the DCs over for them to mind for a bit, with a certain film he wanted to watch! No actual interaction with the children they were asking to come over.

Glad to see I am NBU. Sometimes I wonder if I expect too much in the way of manners like this and thank yous etc (something else that isn't forthcoming from any of my friends or sister) and I often wonder if I am the odd one.

YANBU. That's rude. Unless you live in our house, you get walked to the door.

I always show people to the door- in fact If you are my mum or my best friend, I expect you to tell me you are in your own door!!(both have mobility issues/pain conditions and I like to know they are in ok)
I think it's polite, I always say Thankyou for coming and lovely to see you etc, just what you do