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To be annoyed with mil about this (Easter egg related)

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Notmymuse · 05/04/2015 18:54

We bought ds a particular type of egg - a certain character one - and gave it to him this morning. It was the main prize on his treasure hunt and supposedly from the Easter bunny. He's 5 by the way and still believes (believed) in the Easter bunny.

Went to mil's this afternoon and she had bought the same egg. She said 'I wanted to be the one to get you this one as it's special. Who bought you the other one?' Ds replied the Easter bunny. To which mil snapped 'don't be so daft there isn't an Easter bunny.'
She was really annoyed because she'd wanted to get him the 'best egg' this is typical of her by the way. Wanting to bribe him with things or show off in some way. It's always about her so because she was annoyed about the egg she snapped about the Easter bunny.

Now I recognise at 5 that the Easter bunny days are numbered, and in fact I never believed in a mythical rabbit who delivered eggs. It just annoyed me that she only told him like that because she'd thrown her toys out of the pram re the bloody Easter egg!

Aibu to think this is irritating immature behaviour? Ds wouldn't have minded having two eggs the same anyway! It does sound pathetic but it's always about what she wants not what's best for ds.

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Undeuxtwatcinq · 05/04/2015 18:59

YANBU at all. Was your DS upset. I am angry for you..my DD almost 8 has just been told by someone at school that Easter bunny not real and I was cross about that (way it was done). Hope you told her you weren't happy.

nocoolnamesleft · 05/04/2015 18:59

Did she think he was just being cheeky? Can't say I've ever met anyone who believed in the Easter bunny before....so maybe she hadn't either?

ilovelamp82 · 05/04/2015 18:59

So what did you say to her?

CalleighDoodle · 05/04/2015 19:01

What a cow!!!!! Id be furious!!!!

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Notmymuse · 05/04/2015 19:02

I am kind of surprised re ds and belief in the Easter bunny but I think it's come from school as we haven't started it with him. The last couple of years he's talked about the easter bunny.

I said 'the Easter bunny bought the egg for ds. He had a treasure hunt.'
And she said 'oh mummy bought it then.'

Ds is now questioning if santa is real as the bunny isn't. I know he's on the cusp of believing anyway and I'm not distraught over him no longer believing I just don't think it was very nice how he'd been so pleased this morning and then mil said that. Out of spite.

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ChipDip · 05/04/2015 19:02

When did the Easter bunny become as big as Santa Claus

esiotrot2015 · 05/04/2015 19:03

Easter bunny isn't the same as FC though is it ?
Although your mil does sound annoying mean

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Notmymuse · 05/04/2015 19:03

He's not but I guess in ds's mind if one isn't real then maybe the other isn't either.
He was going on last night about the bunny using the same magic to get in the house as santa.

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Notmymuse · 05/04/2015 19:05

Incidentally we haven't spoken much about either at home. Ds would have had a treasure hunt anyway but he decided the bunny had left it and we've just agreed I guess...

As I said I'm not horrified about him not believing I just think it's a shame that mil told him like that just because she was annoyed that she didn't get to give him the 'best egg' FFS!

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mumeeee · 05/04/2015 19:06

YABU re the Easter bunny most children I know don't believe in it. They just enjoy getting Easter eggs or doing an Easter egg hunt. However your MIL was a bit rude

NerrSnerr · 05/04/2015 19:08

To be fair she probably didn't realise that believing in the bunny is a thing. I didn't think it was something children believed in.

SideOrderofChips · 05/04/2015 19:09

Most children don't believe in the easter bunny, well out of the kids i know!

Easter bunny isn't the same as Father Christmas

TendonQueen · 05/04/2015 19:09

Whether or not you 'do' the
Easter bunny it's unkind to spoil something for a child as she did. Has she behaved like this before?

Joyfulleastersquad · 05/04/2015 19:10

YANBU.

It was spiteful for her to do that.

I had similar with my mil, if I told her what I was getting dd for Xmas she would go out and buy it first or turn up on her birthday with a massive cake. knowing I'd already gotten her one.

What did you say to her or did you just fume silently?

Undeuxtwatcinq · 05/04/2015 19:10

I hadn't realised that children didn't believe in the bunny. I did and just thought it was something universal. Learn something all the time here.

Joyfulleastersquad · 05/04/2015 19:12

Ds replied the Easter bunny. To which mil snapped 'don't be so daft there isn't an Easter bunny.

TBF nerr that kind of let's you know what frame of mind mil was in. It wasn't an accident.

nooka · 05/04/2015 19:13

I think the Easter Bunny stuff is a bit crap really, it's not an English tradition as far as I am aware, I certainly don't remember it from my childhood at all (and we had Easter Egg hunts).

The MIL does sounds incredibly petty and competitive, and she wasn't kind to her grandchild so you are not unreasonable to be upset, but I don't see why she should be expected to endorse the Bunny concept.

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Notmymuse · 05/04/2015 19:13

Yes she has. She's very much only interested in how things benefit her. I wouldn't say she's purposefully unkind, it's more that she can only ever see her own point of view.

For instance I've been trying to encourage ds to practice his handwriting / colouring over Easter because he's had problems with his fine motor. He showed her some of it last week and told her how he was practicing and she said 'you don't want to bother with that. Practice on your bike instead so I can go out with you on it down the park.'

However she also says things like (in front of ds) 'is he top of the class? I hope so because I want to show off to all my friends.'
Who to be honest probably don't care where ds is in his class!

It's just a lot of me me me that's all.

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soapboxqueen · 05/04/2015 19:15

Quite honestly I always pretend that whatever fantastical creature is real because you never know what a child believes and it isn't up to me to make those decisions for them. Also, it annoys the hell out of the older kids.

It's one thing to assume none belief. It's another to tell a child something isn't real when they issue an answer that shows they believe iyswim. In this case when the child said 'the Easter bunny got it for me' the correct answer is 'ooh that's nice' not 'there is no bunny' ð??¯

Joyfulleastersquad · 05/04/2015 19:17

No easter bunny nooka ? I dressed my dd2 up in a rabbit outfit today to embarrass her when she is 18

LunaMay · 05/04/2015 19:37

Easter bunny is definitely a thing here (Aus), has been since I was a kid. Didn't realise it wasn't done everywhere! My mum used to use talc powder to leave bunny prints lol

LittleMissRayofHope · 05/04/2015 19:46

'And she said oh mummy bought it then'

^^ this is mean and spiteful. First comment about being daft is thoughtless. I could let that go.
But the above is just mean. She used your DS to passively aggressively get at your for having the audacity to buy your own son an egg he would really love.

I genuinely don't understand why MIL/DM's seem to think it's their place to be better then a child's actual mother and then get pissed off when they are put back into place.

YANBU to be annoyed at her. I would have told her where to shove her 'best egg'

CalleighDoodle · 05/04/2015 21:22

Im still angry about this. More so
Seeing your mils spiteful nasty behaviour called acceptable by some posters. she was out of line.

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