To want some of my Dad's posessions

[thesortingtwat]

I've really lost perspective here...
Dad died nearly 2 years ago. Very sudden, no will. Therefore everything (house/cash) went to stepmum. That's not a problem for me but she won't let me have anything of his as a momento and I'm really struggling with this. He is buried far away from me (absolutely not my choice) so I can't get to the grave often and I yearn to have something from my childhood in my house, in particular a grandfather clock that belonged to his father, also some pictures we chose together when I was a teen.

I've asked a couple of times but she's not budging, says she 'doesn't want the house to be denuded'. I'm so sad about this but AIBU? He lives on forever in my heart but I just want the comfort of something from when I was a child.

Wow, that's a difficult one. Do you think you will ever get it? Or will she leave it all to someone else/ her children?

I have things in my nanas house that were left to me I'm her will. However grandad is still not ready to start parting with her stuff and she has been gone 14 years. I respect his wishes.

I can't say yabu, because I do see your side. But I also understand people not being ready to part with things.

YANBU Im really sorry for your loss

What is your relationship with your stepmum usually like? I'm not close to my stepmum but I cant see her being so mean to not let me or my older sister have a single thing. And it does sound mean to not let you have a single thing of your dad's. I don't know how old he was but I'm sure he'd accumulated enough possessions over the years so that 1 or 2 wouldn't be missed by his wife coz theyd gone to another good home. Hope she changes her mind soon OP.

ask her for copies of the photos not the photos themselves that way she still gets to keep her stuff but you get something too

also ask if she could leave you something of your fathers in her will tell her you understand but as his daughter you feel as if you should have something to remember your dad by if she says no to a couple of reasonable requests like that she is being mean sorry xx