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to think that the gloves are off now after the interview?

58 replies

Sixweekstowait · 05/04/2015 09:42

Well am I?

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LindyHemming · 05/04/2015 09:46

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Nolim · 05/04/2015 09:51

I have no idea what you are asking

passmethewineplease · 05/04/2015 09:52

How do you mean?

Finola1step · 05/04/2015 09:53

Eh?

engeika · 05/04/2015 10:06

Is this the Sam Cam interview? Are you implying that because she talked of her kids/lovely husband etc it is ok for anyone to either use their own kids/lovely partners/sob-stories OR attack The Cams now that they have "put it out there"?

Sunnymeg · 05/04/2015 10:08

If you are talking about the SamCam interview about her life as a parent of a disabled son, then yes. This could backfire terribly on them. She talks about her struggles, forgetting she has a thousand and one advantages that ordinary people with a disabled family member do not have.

SnakeyMcBadass · 05/04/2015 10:14

Is this about North Korea?

Sixweekstowait · 05/04/2015 10:24

Yes Sunny. Her husband has presided over a government that has immeasurably worsened the lives of disabled people and those caring for disabled children. Why does she think that so many couples with disabled children break up? Anything to do with being hard up, lack of respite care, lack of family holidays and child care , lack of appropriate education provision and health care, worrying yourself sick at the thought of your disabled child growing up into the heartless caring world that SamCsm approves of her husband creating? Anyone who thinks that being really really wealthy doesn't make your experience of having a disabled child less worse is an idiot. She never mentions that once dose she? Just her wonderful husband

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Theoretician · 05/04/2015 10:36

Anyone who thinks that being really really wealthy doesn't make your experience of having a disabled child less worse is an idiot.

I haven't seen the interview. I suspect she didn't say this.

Cantbelievethisishappening · 05/04/2015 10:40

Well, we do have an election soon hence rolling out Mrs Cameron. Putting a human spin on Dave I guess. Cant stand the pair of them.

Silvercatowner · 05/04/2015 10:41

If I were David Cameron's publicity advisors I'd be rolling out Samantha as often as possible.

Cantbelievethisishappening · 05/04/2015 10:44

Why's that Silver?

paxtecum · 05/04/2015 10:46

Did they not have two kitchens and 24 hour nursing care for their child?

Littlemonstersrule · 05/04/2015 10:50

Bourdic, so she should never mention the struggles she faced, how much she loved her son and her grief when he died just because she was fortunate enough to be working and have money?

Money didon't change his health or stop her losing her child.

Sixweekstowait · 05/04/2015 10:53

Exactly Theo - she didn't mention it all because she has no idea of what her experiences are compared to those of most parents with disabled children. What she should have said is 'of course, I realise that we are very lucky because we could pay for all the child care we needed to help us, we didn't have to wait for a suitable wheelchair and could afford the extra nappies needed - the amount given was completely inadequate. Our homes were big enough - no bedroom tax to worry about. I really don't know how people manage without all our advantages and I am going to do all I can to persuade Dave to make the lives of such families so much easier if you will vote for him

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Sixweekstowait · 05/04/2015 10:56

Little- as I said in my post, she should acknowledge her advantages . But she either doesn't realise them or doesn't give a fuck as to how her husband's policies are making the lives of other families worse. Money doesn't lessen grief of course it doesn't but it makes the everyday problems more bearable and manageable

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stillwearingaredribbon · 05/04/2015 10:57

I think David Cameron is a disgrace, he used the death of his son to shut down any debate about benefits or the NHS

stillwearingaredribbon · 05/04/2015 10:57

uses

Sixweekstowait · 05/04/2015 10:57

And she shouldn't be using yes using him and his death in an election campaign. If this was a speech at the opening of a respite facility for disabled children I'd be cheering her on

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Sixweekstowait · 05/04/2015 11:01

I was once in a situation where I met parents of severely disabled children having serious operations. The parents had to take it in turns to be with their child as there was no one else to look after their other child. They so needed to be together and couldn't be - money would have changed that

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Littlemonstersrule · 05/04/2015 11:03

Then she would have been accused of bragging that she had money so she can't win. She had children at a time in life where she and her husband could afford them just like thousands do but thousands don't. Nobody can guarantee a healthy child, money doesn't change the outcome of a pregnancy.

Of course she's not going to persuade her husband to throw money at people, it's not the stance of the party and there's little money anyway.
Building a stronger economy is the main priority for the country as a whole, that will create a better future for all.

Cantbelievethisishappening · 05/04/2015 11:03

Bourdic, so she should never mention the struggles she faced, how much she loved her son and her grief when he died just because she was fortunate enough to be working and have money?

Just before an election?? No, she shouldn't.

FreudiansSlipper · 05/04/2015 11:06

From what I read she stated that they nearly came to breaking point in the first year and that they felt they could not ask for help as they as parents should be able to cope

While of course having money this was not a concern for them as it is for many I am sure the wanting to do everything yourself is still a huge amount of pressure and having money behind them does not help with coming to terms with having a child that will not live a life that is not dependant on others they will have grieved for this, the family having to adapt for his needs the constant worry of his health and the grief they have felt money does not help with this

I do not doubt when Cameron talks about his son it is genuine it's the only time I feel he is being honest his life with is son the NHS played a huge part of this so regardless if he mentions him or not he will be very much forefront of his thoughts (which I am sure he always is) so is likely to mention him

I do not like to see any parent who has lost a child to be criticised about talking about them but it's inevitable in his position he will

saturdaysnitching · 05/04/2015 11:17

"‘There’s lots of people in our situation whose marriages don’t survive,’ she said sitting on a sofa in the family’s Downing Street flat. ‘Looking after a disabled child pushes you to the limits of what you can cope with physically, emotionally.’
Mrs Cameron wept as she recalled how she and her husband were brought to the brink. ‘Sorry, the mascara must be halfway down my face,’ she apologised through sobs, dabbing her eyes as she regained her composure.
‘By the end of the first year we were totally shattered and pretty much at breaking point. The doctors realised we needed help. But as parents you have this feeling that you shouldn’t ask for help.’"
It's here if anyone wants to read dailym.ai/1C1SZhB
The comments are an interesting read

FatFromAllTheMassiveEggs · 05/04/2015 11:20

And when you do ask for help you don't get it, due to their cuts. Total hypocrisy.