AIBU to get a bit jealous when my friend has a great time with other friends?

7 replies

MoanCraft · 04/04/2015 22:24

Is it normal? I'm just a bit jealous of the closeness really. I would never ever ever say or act in a jealous fashion of course.

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holeinmyheart · 04/04/2015 23:41

I don't like being excluded by friends. I don't think many people are glad to see their friends having a good time without them, are they? Only if you are a Saint, perhaps.

I am a NT member and whenever I go to some beautiful Stately home where the descendants of the original occupants have a flat, that they can stay in from time to time, I think B*** , why wasn't I born into the Aristocracy. Nothing too fancy. Mmmmm, Lady holeinmyheart sounds so nice.

Being content with everything would be so much healthier. ( Yea ! I Know before I get flamed)

i just need to grow up, don't I ?

bananayellow · 04/04/2015 23:45

I have loads of different friends and expect others to, too. It's like children. Love doesn't diminish just because you have a few.

BackforGood · 04/04/2015 23:52

What Banana said.
No, I'm not jealous when I see any of my friends having a good time - I'm pleased they are. Sometimes I think 'oh that's a good idea, I might go there / try that / visit there / etc'. I don't expect everyone I know to sit home alone when they are not with me ~ that would be weird.

prawnballs · 05/04/2015 00:18

I'm happy for them but I do know what you mean moancraft as there is always that little element of them wanting their 'bestest times' to be with you - I think its normal in all honesty so long as you still have their well-being at heart!

Runningupthathill82 · 05/04/2015 07:35

Eh?!

I can honestly say I don't think like this at all. Recently a group of my friends went on holiday together, with the children. They all had a fantastic time.

It would never occur to me to be envious because their "best times should be with me" - that's really possessive and odd. I just want to have a happy life and for my friends to have happy lives too..

MargotLovedTom · 05/04/2015 07:41

Depends if the 'other friends' are your friends too! Then it's not petty to feel a bit left out. However, if they are not people you know and socialise with then c'est la vie I suppose.

Do you have friends, other than this one mate, who you see and have good times with?

tobysmum77 · 05/04/2015 08:06

yabu obviously as friends can have as many other friends as they want. But as long as you acknowledge that in the rational side of your brain yanbu.

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