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to think eating products before you pay for them at the till is uncouth?

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lastfanjoinparis · 04/04/2015 21:46

OH and I disagree. He thinks eating a packet of crisps then handing the empty packet over at checkout to scan is perfectly acceptable but I think this is a no-no.

Where do you guys sit on this matter?

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OnlyLovers · 07/04/2015 10:35

I'd hazard a guess that the supermarket doesn't give a flying fuck, Wombat, as long as people buy the stuff they've been eating on the way round.

I don't see what's wrong with being 'self-indulgent', if that's what we're calling eating a bag of crisps now.

EveBoswell · 07/04/2015 10:36

How did we manage in the days before help-yourself supermarkets?

Everything had to be bought over the counter so there would have been no chance of eating before paying. It just shows that sheer greed is commonplace. People cannot possibly be more hungry than when we had over-the-counter shops because that's when we still had some rationing.

ChocolateWombat · 07/04/2015 10:37

OnlyLovers - and if the supermarket preferred that people didn't do it, would that stop you doing it?

belgina · 07/04/2015 10:37

This isn't about hunger in my toddler, but about having delicious food right by and wanting to sample it. (Ds) To expect a 1-2yo toddler to have the same self control as an adult, is frankly asking for trouble. Ds is now 13 and perfectly able to wait. Now with dd3 (2) I use a packet of crisps to imobilise her. She is the most active toddler I have ever met and eats crisps incredibly slowly for some reason. Without it she would be halfway across the shop in no time!
I also cannot believe those who have never seen it done, I see toddlers munching and away in shops all the time :/ I use a packet from the shop, because how would I be able to prove that the one from home was already paid for Easter Hmm

OnlyLovers · 07/04/2015 10:39

Wombat, hard to say – how, in this hypothetical scenario, would I know they preferred me not to?

ImGoingForATwix · 07/04/2015 10:42

I think it's uncouth and rude. I worked on a supermarket checkout years ago and people did this quite frequently. Not such an issue with crisps etc. but with grapes (a common one) and pick & mix, it was effectively theft as the customer can only be charged for the weight presented at the till.

samsswampy · 07/04/2015 10:43

Show some decorum is one of DMs sayings, but then she also eats a few grapes before buying them as she don't want to buy without trying them they could be sour!

ChocolateWombat · 07/04/2015 10:45

Well,we know that people eating going round the supermarket causes losses for the store. It makes it harder for the store to know who are shoplifting and never intending to pay for the goods. A certain proportion of those eating will not be intending to pay, even if you are not one of them. It causes mess, in terms of crumbs or litter disposed of around the store. I think we can safely say that stores would prefer customers NOT to do this, even if they are not prepared to openly say it is not allowed.
They don't openly say people shouldn't eat food from other locations there, or drop general rubbish on the floor whilst going round, or various other anti-social behaviours, which we can assume they would prefer people not to engage in.
The question is how far you are willing to consider what they would like and let it affect your behaviour, or how far you are willing to do whatever you like, because it suits you, rather than considering others.
Again, I say, would you put on a pair of socks, or a hat or scarf and remove the labels, in marks and Specer or indeed in a supermarket, before paying? If not, what is different?

Cinderelish · 07/04/2015 10:55

When my DS was around 18 months he used to eat half way through a punnet of blueberries around Tesco. I have in pregnancy been known to open a packet of cheese bites and scan the wrapper. The checkout assistants don't seem to mind and when I worked at Tesco 10+years ago I didn't mind either. You can easily spend an hour in there and you may not have been hungry on your way in. Also, its not technically theft until you leave the store. You can put items in your handbag 'use your handbag as a basket' and until you actually walk out there is nothing anyone one can do. Although you'll probably get watched :)

BlueAndSwirly · 07/04/2015 11:02

Although you'll probably get watched

Yes, I think that's the thing I have a real problem with, rather than the 'uncouthness' aspect. I wouldn't do it in case I got watched, and if everybody did it it would create a hell of a lot of work for the staff, trying to work out who was stealing and who wasn't. Which would also put up staffing overheads for the store, and ultimately increase prices.

So if it wouldn't be desirable for everyone who shopped to eat/drink loads of items from their trolley before paying, then it's probably not desirable even when it's 'just one packet of crisps'.

gotthemoononastick · 07/04/2015 11:08

Last thought before going to the supermarket..

Hot chicken wings, pizza and the like,then go upstairs to the cashmere jerseys and baby clothes with those paws!

Kizzy07 · 07/04/2015 11:27

I usually have some snacks for the kids in my bag and if they are really playing up and can't be distracted by other things I will let then have a box of raisins or whatever I happen to have in my bag. Of course people might think I'm stealing and not realise I've brought the snacks from home. If I don't have any snacks with me, they have to wait. If they thought they were allowed to eat food off the shelves before paying they would constantly be pestering me for stuff all the way round the shop. I just think it's quite rude.

BlueAndSwirly · 07/04/2015 11:30

Actually that's a good point Kizzy - if kids expect to be able to eat stuff off the shelves immediately, it actually makes taking them round the supermarket more difficult rather than easier.

slithytove · 07/04/2015 11:31

I've worn both clothes and shoes out of a shop before and they have scanned the tags AND bagged up my old stuff for me. Very normal.

OnlyLovers · 07/04/2015 11:36

Wombat, I'd like to know how we 'know that people eating going round the supermarket causes losses for the store' and exactly how it 'makes it harder for the store to know who are shoplifting and never intending to pay for the goods.' I'm also not sure about your assertion that 'a certain proportion of those eating will not be intending to pay'. But thanks for graciously assuming that I am not one of them. Grin

As for mess, the act of getting, say, a bread roll or pastry out of its display thingy also causes mess in the form of crumbs. Is it different/better to have crumbs at the bakery section than in other places round the store?

Litter: I frequently see litter in supermarkets that has not come from easily eaten foods like bakery goods –magazines put in the food sections, bags of frozen food dumped on random shelves etc. From these experiences I'd surmise that litter from people eating as they go round forms a very small part of the problem, especially when you consider that people tend to save the packaging so it can be swiped and paid for.

'I think we can safely say that stores would prefer customers NOT to do this, even if they are not prepared to openly say it is not allowed.'

I'd be interested to hear more about how you came to this conclusion, especially seeing as PPs have mentioned seeing signs in certain stores asking customers not to eat food before it's been paid for. Presumably if more stores minded, they would have signs up?

The socks/hat/scarf thing: it's different because it is very easy to pick up e.g. a bread roll or bag of crisps and open and eat it on your way round the store, and not so easy to remove labels/packaging and put on socks. Plus you're likely to have done so because you wanted to eat it there and then; you're less likely to want to wear a scarf or a new pair of socks right then and there.

RB68 · 07/04/2015 11:56

Diabetes is not always easy to control especially type 1 - its not a fixed given how blood sugars will react to your activity levels and consumption of energy - if your body has an infection that can cause problems as well. Its all too easy to rush around and not eat properly for whatever reason and have forgotten to put a snack in a bag and end up with a problem. Particularly if you become insulin dependent later in life it is difficult to understand how it all works and you can easily get caught out.

Having said that even with small children its easy to grab whats needed from snack section - pay at Mag,n,fag counter or self checkout or even customer services get a receipt and carry on the shop. I don't think its acceptable for adults. Lady in front of me the other day had grabbed a couple of mini packs of haribo and eaten them - I mean really for a 5 min wait. She didn't even have a big shop!

I always taste a grape IF I am buying. IS it theft. I would strongly argue not - I am testing the quality of the taste of the grape - caught out by inferior product too many times and a local green grocer WOULD allow that for a customer, I don't think its unreasonable at all. I would also test apples and other fruit except I think that is taking it too far. Too many times I have had floury or poor apples, melons and don't get me on about Strawberries - that is more hit than miss on taste and quality

BlueAndSwirly · 07/04/2015 12:01

As for mess, the act of getting, say, a bread roll or pastry out of its display thingy also causes mess in the form of crumbs. Is it different/better to have crumbs at the bakery section than in other places round the store?

Of course it's different Confused There will be crumbs dropped all round the store rather than just at the bakery section - imagine eg a small child eating something especially crumby. If everyone who took out something from the bakery section ate it before they got to the checkout, they would have to employ a full-time crumb-sweeper to go round the aisles.

OnlyLovers · 07/04/2015 12:06

Blue, I'm pretty sure I sometimes leave a veritable trail of breadcrumbs behind me as I go round a shop with pastries etc in my basket. Sometimes the bags have holes in them, or flop open.

You're assuming that people are really messy eaters and also that it's largely children, but on this thread there are plenty of adults saying they eat all the way round too. I doubt very much that everyone scatters crumbs wildly about them.

And people bring in plenty of mess from outside, too. There ARE often almost full-time sweepers in supermarkets and I don't think they employ them purely to deal with crumbs from people with the temerity to eat a roll or a bag of crisps as they shop.

BlueAndSwirly · 07/04/2015 12:07

I'd like to know how we 'know that people eating going round the supermarket causes losses for the store' and exactly how it 'makes it harder for the store to know who are shoplifting and never intending to pay for the goods.'

I don't see how it's hard to imagine the answer to this either Confused

It's harder for shop staff to keep an eye on 200 people eating their way round the store than 2. You'd need more staff, which would be more expensive. And yes, that makes the assumption that some of the people eating before they pay won't actually pay - do you really think this would never happen?

mumtoaninja · 07/04/2015 12:07

Surely if you/your children needed to eat/drink that badly whilst shopping, why can't you quickly grab what snacks/baguettes/lucozade, pay for them and then continue around the supermarket at your leisure whilst consuming already paid for goods?

slithytove · 07/04/2015 12:11

Even if the food eaten has been brought from home or pre purchased, that doesn't change the issues of mess, or guards keeping an eye on potential shoplifters.

BlueAndSwirly · 07/04/2015 12:14

There ARE often almost full-time sweepers in supermarkets and I don't think they employ them purely to deal with crumbs from people with the temerity to eat a roll or a bag of crisps as they shop.

But more mess from eating is MORE mess to clear up, especially if everyone is doing it (toddlers included) and assuming it's fine. It's like saying that it's ok to chuck your rubbish on a pavement because it keeps street-sweepers in employment, and one will be along in a minute.

dilydaly · 07/04/2015 12:51

For goodness sake what's the big deal ?! If you intend to pay for the item then what's the problem ?
If I go shopping and I'm starving I'll grab a sandwich and eat it on the way round, put the empty packet in the trolley and pay for it with my shopping. This also saves me a fortune on buying things I would only buy because I was hungry !
Also when I go in with my daughter if she wants a packet of chocolate buttons she eats them on the way round, the ladies at the till have never had a problem when I hand them the empty containers.
I think the ill manners comments are ridiculous, some people worry too much about the simple things honestly...

piratesmama · 07/04/2015 13:01

I've done it with water for my preschooler. I wouldn't with anything else, though.

OnlyLovers · 07/04/2015 13:09

But not everyone IS eating their way round the shop, so the 'more staff' argument is moot.

Do supermarkets hire extra staff to keep an eye on all these dreadful types eating a pastry on their way round, just in case they're trying to nick them? I don't think so.

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