DM didn't buy my son a gift.

[justbatteringon]

Bit of back story here. This week my sil db and their son my nephew came for a visit. They live quite far away. My mother also lives far away so when db and family come to visit DM usually stays with me and db stays with our other sister and her family.

So on the last day of their visit DM went out and bought all her grandchildren gifts except my 2 dc.
Her excuse was that she had bought for my dc on her last visit, but she had bought them gifts on last visit to make up for not getting them the first time db and family came to visit.
I had no problem with her not getting gifts on original visit because I knew she couldn't affordto I even lent her the money to get dnephew one.
But on this visit I knew she had recently been paid and she had sorted out the money issues she previously had.

When I mentioned to mother that she seemed to have forgotten my DC she gave her excuse of getting them last time and told me "you're just trying to make me feel guilty about it and it's not working"

I wasn't trying to make her feel guilty I was bloody fuming and still am, but I also feel like I'm being a bit petty about the whole thing.
I honestly feel like ringing her and telling her not to come back.

YANBU. This is unacceptable. Unless it is a birthday you either buy small gifts for all grandchildren or don't buy any at all. You don't buy gifts for 3 and leave 2 out.

Absolutely not on.

It takes a nasty type of person to do this with children. Yanbu and id be telling her what I thought.

Tbh there's no point in talking to my mother she'll just tell me that I'm being ridiculous and then twist it that I'm being unreasonable and "grumpy".

you need to put your kids first though and tell her its not on - you cant make her give your children anything but you can stop her doing it in front of them at least

I think you can tell her not to give the presents out in front of your DC though.

It's not on though - especially as she was your guest and it's your DC's birthday tomorrow.

YANBU. It's a shitty thing to do and no reason for it, especially as it's your child's birthday tomorrow. I wouldn't let her stay again when you brother comes down. Tell her you aren't going to let her play favourites in your own house.

My aunt can be like this but not with presents. She has always had an odd chip on her shoulder about me, sometimes we get on fine and other times she is petty and spiteful for absolutely no reason and this has been going on since I was young. I can take it but on her last visit she completely blanked my children after playing with them loads on her previous visit. This time all her great nieces and nephews were there and she paid them all attention except mine. It's the last straw for me and I won't bother with her again. She can keep her petty ways with me but she isn't passing it on to my children.

As parents we have to make a choice to protect our children from idiotic adults who should know better.