To wish I wasn't a straight female?

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I have never come across a straight man in a romantic context who hasn't treated me badly in some way... And all the genuinely traumatic things that have happened in my life have been at the hands of straight men.

But despite this I know that I will always crave love and affection from them despite not being able to reconcile with the experiences I've had...

aibu to wish I wasn't straight? I feel like I'm in a situation where I'm destined to forever be hurt and lonely....

to put it bluntly..... any sexual relationship with a straight man is tainted by being raped and assaulted by men in the past.

with a woman, I don't have those past experiences.

but sadly I can't change that I am straight and find men attractive whilst on another level finding them intimidating and upsetting

also you all seem to be critical of me/my dating habits without considering that just maybe I have come across many straight men in my life who have been absolute monsters.

I don't think anyone's been 'critical', more that they're trying to get you to see this from another angle.

Perhaps the fault does lie with everyone else but you, perhaps it doesn't and your people sussing skills are a little off, perhaps there is no 'fault' at all and it's all down to bad luck/timing...who knows?

But I think what a few people are trying to point out, is that no matter what the 'fault' or the 'bad luck', whatever's caused it wouldn't necessarily change if you switched to dating women.

I agree with Worra too (nothing new there)

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In that case I really do advise you to get some more professional help.

It's perfectly understandable to feel this way if you've been raped.

It must be almost impossible to realise that there are tons of lovely men out there who would never dream of doing that to you