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AIBU?

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neighbour problem

19 replies

samandkat · 03/04/2015 21:59

Me and my family have live in a private rented three bedroom semi detached house for two years.

Now for two years I have put up with loud banging about slamming of doors even DIY (drills, hammers etc) at all times of the day and night

Last week my fence fell over on to my garden during some bad weather now I don't have the means of putting up the fence money wise and I don't plan on sorting it out any time soon as I have other things to deal with that are much more important

My neighbour has been on my doorstep complaining about the missing fence I calmly and politely explained my situation and then he got abit aggressive with me and started to raise his voice and threatened to hit me so I told him to leave and I closed the door

I'm now scared what should I do

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cashewnutty · 03/04/2015 22:02

Call 101 and get some advice. He should not be threatening to hit you.

AgentZigzag · 03/04/2015 22:03

There's no way you neighbour should be getting aggressive, and threatening to hit you is totally OTT, if he does anything like that again just ring the police.

Even though I'd be loath to do it because I don't like being bullied into doing anything, could you get on to your landlord about the fence? It's not really your responsibility is it?

Griphook · 03/04/2015 22:04

If he threatened to hit you call the police, and get them to how a word.

Surely the fence is your LL responsiblity not yours so ring him and get them to deal with it

EsmetheWitch · 03/04/2015 22:07

Why are you having to replace the fence if you live in a rented house? Surely it's the landlord's responsibility.

Obviously your neighbour should not be aggressive towards you and that must have been scary. Call 111 to log the incident and give your neighbour your landlord's number so he can talk to them about repairing the fence.

IDontDoIroning · 03/04/2015 22:09

Call the police non emergency number and report him- there is no way he should be threatening a neighbour in any shape or firm least of all over a fence which isnt their responsibility to fix.
Also it's your landlords responsibility to fix the fence not yours.

LunaMay · 03/04/2015 22:11

Definitely get on to your landlord about the fence. Then if the neighbour starts up you can say you've done your bit. Is this fence separating your gardens? Is that why he is upset?

AgentZigzag · 03/04/2015 22:15

Yeah, I agree with the other posters, don't wait until he does it again and log it with 101 now. You shouldn't have to worry about some wanker coming round threatening to deck you because of a fence.

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samandkat · 03/04/2015 22:20

Yes the fence is separating the front gardens but there is a brick wall there as well (half wall half fence) I have told the landlord about it but hes not willing to pay for it as it is not necessary to have a fence the lack of fence is fine by me as it is on the front garden

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AgentZigzag · 03/04/2015 22:25

Then there's nothing you can do if the landlord says no.

Does the neighbour know that? Had you talked to the landlord before he came round shooting his mouth off?

missabc123 · 03/04/2015 22:28

Def phone the police if you're being threatened with physical violence.

I think you need tell your landlord your neighbour is threatening you in this way because of it and it's making things very hard for you; it may spur him onto fixing it.

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samandkat · 03/04/2015 22:50

Yes I had already reported it to landlord days ago

I just don't understand what the problem is why is my neighbour so nasty about it its only a fence

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drbonnieblossman · 03/04/2015 23:00

If there's already a dwarf wall then something is marking the boundaries. Nothing to say a fence is essential. Annoying for your neighbour probably but he'll either have to sort it himself or live without it. If he keeps bothering you, give him your landlords contact details.

Feckeggblue · 03/04/2015 23:02

Tell him to speak to the landlord

Icimoi · 04/04/2015 10:44

Give the neighbour all your landlord's contact details and ask him to deal direct with him.

PrettyLittleMitty · 04/04/2015 10:50

Definitely report him to the police, he sounds a bit nuts. Also agree with pp about giving him your LL details, they can sort it out between themselves.

ljwales · 04/04/2015 10:52

Its a rented house so problem neighbours can go away easily! Report, if it gets worse move.

swazza · 04/04/2015 10:54

This is not your issue - the fence!

As a tennant you do not need to be spending money on fencing.

I would do as Icimoi has suggested. Go around to your neighbour and be polite (just for the sake of future relations) and say as I am only the tennant its not upto me but here are my LL detaisl should you wish to take the matter up with him.

Your neighbour sounds like an aggressive bully. If he continues to be an arsehole report him using 101.

Start a log of events with dates, facts of what was said when etc, any witnesses etc. Hopefully this is just a one off but if you start to log aggressive behaviour from your neighbour now - you have evidence to back you up should he continue with his aggressive stance.

Vycount · 04/04/2015 12:34

Why would she go around to the neighbour who threated to hit her FFS? Call 101 and get some help dealing with this.

ghostspirit · 04/04/2015 12:54

he should not have threatend no way. and maybe it should be reported. my 3 panels of my fence fell down. was telling landlord nothing was being done. so i just gave them my landlords number. and it got sorted.

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