to think this is so rude?!

[glorymorning]

I'm really fucked off tbf so I might be overreacting.

Basically friend arranged a weekend away for her birthday this weekend, and then cancelled it on Wednesday. She said lets still go out this weekend, I said fine but a plan needs to be put in place.

I'd had to say no a friends house party tomorrow because I thought I was going away for the weekend.

Birthday friend has read the text (on Wednesday) about me saying if we are going out this weekend then a plan needs to be put in place and has just ignored it, I even sent another text with "????" which has been ignored too.

She's not mad at me or anything but she's just so fucking thoughtless.

Aibu to think it's unfair to mess around someones time like this? I wanted to still go out for her because it was her birthday .... but seems like I'm chasing her up about it and obviously I don't want to make my friend whos having the house party feel like a second choice by deciding to go on the day.

Honestly I'd text your friend and say that your other plans got cancelled but you'd love to come to her party of the offer is still open? And then when your friend texts you at the last minute, you can say "oh I didn't think we were doing anything because you never got back to me."

That's what I'd do anyway.

contact your house party friend and explain say you believed you had other plans and they have fallen through can you still come to be honest its not poor manners what would be poor manners if you cancelled on a, because b, is a better offer

and dont go out with your flaky friend

I would contact flaky friend and ask one more time what the plans are. Explain that you have been invited to a party and if she isn't wanting to go out could she let you know so you can make other plans.

If she doesn't reply, contact house party friend and ask to go.