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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to cpunt down to our wedding and honeymoon?

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KicktheBride · 03/04/2015 14:26

In 10 weeks I'm marrying my fiancé and jetting off on our honeymoon/familymoon to egypt. It'll be our first holiday abroad in 6 years and our sons first time abroad too. Obviously I'm bloody excited!!!

It's not been the best 12 months, with me being in hospital a lot, two family cancer scares and two close family deaths, so I'm happy to have something to actually look forward to.

I wrote a status on Facebook about being excited and how I hope it doesn't drag now everything has been paid for etc, and my OHs relative commented saying along the lines of "don't be wishing your life away"

They go away twice a year so I don't think the person is jealous of us going away as such, but I can't understand why anyone would comment something like that on my status?

AIBU to be counting down or is it wrong? I didn't know what to reply and I was so hurt by the comment that I just deleted the status.

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KicktheBride · 03/04/2015 14:27

Ffs I meant count. Didn't proof read properly

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CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 03/04/2015 14:28

Counting down is perfectly natural!

Don't let stupid comments on Facebook get to you though

comeagainforbigfudge · 03/04/2015 14:29

Aw that's rubbish! I'd be the same as you.

In fact I am, except its for baby arriving in approx 10 weeks.
Oh and finishing work next week.
And for when I can eat pate

I'm totally wishing my life away

YADNBU!!

drbonnieblossman · 03/04/2015 14:31

I think you've overreacted a little maybe.

We say that to DC when they can't wait for this, that and the other and are fit to burst with excitement.

It just means to enjoy all your life, not just those specific parts. Though obviously getting married is something to be very excited about.

You've said nothing wrong in your status, but nor have they.

MomOfTwoGirls2 · 03/04/2015 14:32

Count down away. It's a silly comment. It's lovely to be so excited. Best wishes for your big day and honeymoon. Enjoy every moment!

TheRealMaryMillington · 03/04/2015 14:32

I think they meant it kindly. It's fine to look forward to things, but try to enjoy the moment.

Don't let it upset you. There is nothing to be hurt about.

Only1scoop · 03/04/2015 14:32

Slight over reaction maybe.

If counting down is making you excited count away.

MomOfTwoGirls2 · 03/04/2015 14:33

It's a 'rain on your parade' type comment.

pictish · 03/04/2015 14:34

It's just an expression I think. I've heard it now and then under a similar context.

Yanbu to be excited about your wedding and honeymoon.
Yab a little u to start a public countdown.

Hope it comes in quick though! xx

Chocolatefudgebrownieicecream · 03/04/2015 15:08

Yanbu! It's not like you are counting down to something all the time. It's your wedding. 5 weeks and 1 day to go here! .... Tho I haven't done everything so it can't go too quickly!

Eggynuff · 03/04/2015 15:41

Is it going to be daily countdown or what?

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KicktheBride · 03/04/2015 15:50

No I just put everything was paid and booked and hope the next 10 weeks don't drag now everything is done. I rarely update my status, like once or twice a week so definitely not a daily thing. Last time I posted about the wedding I wrote that I'd posted invites so if any family members hadn't received one please let me know, about a month ago, and before that it was when we set a wedding date last year.

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Eggynuff · 03/04/2015 15:58

Oh, I see, it was a one off post. From the title of your thread I thought you were going to be updating a regular countdown - 9 weeks to go, can't wait - 8 weeks to go, so excited - 7 weeks of single life left, etc.

I've seen updates like that. But then, people also sometimes post about what they had to eat that day - mmm, yummy steak and chips for tea - and they are dull too.

Live and let live I say.

kewtogetin · 03/04/2015 16:03

Well you weren't being unreasonable but neither was the Facebook commenter. Maybe he/she just meant enjoy everyday rather than wish away the next few weeks. Although it does sound like you've posted a lot of wedding related statuses......be careful what you wish for or you'll be back down to Earth with a massive bump when the wedding/honeymoon is all over.

WorraLiberty · 03/04/2015 16:16

I think you've taken it a little too personally really.

It's quite a common thing to say, although more from the older generation IME.

My mum used to say it, and she simply meant 'enjoy every day'. So in this context, they probably just meant enjoy the build up too.

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KicktheBride · 03/04/2015 16:28

kewtogetin it's only the third one in over 12 months so not a lot of statuses :)

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kitkategg · 03/04/2015 16:41

I count down discreetly, using an app for my phone. It's lovely looking at it every day and knowing the day is getting closer! No need to put it all over FB though. I'm always counting down to one thing or another - at the moment it's my summer holiday!

Joyfulleastersquad · 03/04/2015 16:46

Oh they were being mood hoverers!! Ignore!

You can can write what you like on your wall - as its your wall.

Good luck in your wedding and I hope you love your holiday ! I have 89 days till we fly off on ours and yes I'm in a count down

HappyGirlNow · 03/04/2015 16:49

I think they meant to enjoy the build up too.. I think you took it the wrong way.

And I second that, it's all over in a flash, enjoy every moment from now till then

BackforGood · 03/04/2015 16:56

I too think you've been very over sensitive - I would have read it to mean - enjoy every day now - don't make it all about one day in a few months time, life is to be lived every day.
You aren't U to be excited, but I think they've just added a 'conversational' comment. No need for anything to be deleted.

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KicktheBride · 03/04/2015 17:07

Thank you all so much for your input. I didn't realise it was a popular phrase and it's meaning. I just thought it was malicious

We don't post a countdown for everyone to see etc as I've only posted 3 wedding related statuses in the last 12 months or so, but will be more careful about posting incase people are annoyed about me mentioning it or anything. And will enjoy each day instead of hoping it hurries up :)

Now we've got nothing left to do but wait I just hope it doesn't drag, though it'll mean I've got nothing left to stress over and can just relax for the next few weeks! ;)

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UAprilFool · 03/04/2015 17:09

Sorry but I think you are being over sensitive too. I don't think the comment means anything.

BalloonSlayer · 03/04/2015 17:17

Ah it just means to enjoy the run up as well and not see it all as a tedious bank of days getting in between you and the big day.

You will hopefully have some fab days between now and then.

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