mortified - someone at work said i

[EnlightenedOwl]

talk "rough"
i have a strong accent - think Lancashire x Yorkshire and confess the odd "t" has been dropped but do have an immaculate phone voice
No one else has mentioned my accent but this person who I've worked with a while often makes reference to it saying they can't understand me etc
However to say I talk rough is an all time low.
Anyone else ever felt mortified by their accent?

actually this isn't an IABU but posted here by mistake!

Their manners are rough. Tell them to fuck off, or the Lancashire x Yorkshire equivalent

No. Never forget where you come from. Your colleague clearly has!

Very rude of them to cast any opinion on how you talk ... I take it they talk like the Queen?

What an arsehole. Why would you be mortified by such an ignorant twat saying such a thing to you. How rude.

You speak like me, but we say 'common'.

I don't give a toss anymore. I used to. Some people say they find it endearing though and it makes me seem more friendly.

Your colleague is being out of order insulting you like that, no-one should be insulted due to their accent, wherever they're from.

i have an Estuary accent - all dropped aitches and glottal stops
it's much derided on MN for being "thick and vulgar"
i am absolutely certain that I am neither, so cannot bring myself to give a flying fuck

I miss yorkshire accents. Your colleague sounds rude and unpleasant OP. Only idiots would judge on accent

Horrible person.

How rude!!

If they mention it a lot it is verging on bullying to be honest and if you have a manager you should get them to have a word.

Twattish thing to say. I wouldn't care what an arse like that thinks!

It's horrible to be judged for your accent.
I've had people (hospital) take the piss out of me for being 'bloody posh', so the opposite problem.

Love Yorkshire accents btw.

They said you "talk rough"? That's hardly the Queen's English either.

That is rude! Was the person joking? I mean, if the two of you joke around normally she might have thought you'd take that as a joke too.

I work with a woman and we get on well and laugh at the same things, but her accent is hard for me to understand. I miss a lot of what she says, but I'd never tell her why I say 'what' all the time. I told her my hearing is not great.

Haha, yup, me too, I have the same 'Lancashire x Yorkshire' accent and a lot of the time I'm mortified too.

Especially when people used to impersonate me and say 'eeeeh, by gum, chips and graaaavvy'. I just give them my best eyebrow raise + withering look.

However, I also have to admit that I can be pretty condescending and eloquent (strange for someone from oop North eh?) if necessary when faced with accent remarks.

I now live abroad and EVERYONE here loves my accent, in fact someone said the other 'Oh toffee, anything you say in that lovely accent sounds so intelligent!".

I used to protest and would harp on about how I don't have the Queen's English etc etc but now I just shut up and smile.

I'm from Yorkshire but my parents spoke RP and I never really picked up a strong accent, and what I did has mostly faded. I wish I had an accent that reflected where I come from, I am v proud of being a Yorkshire person, so I wish I sounded it!

Love "Your manners are rough", that's a great comeback to have up your sleeve!

Or "do you mean I talk roughly? I thought that's what you meant but with your rough use of grammar it can be hard to tell"

From now on you should only speak to your colleague in your broadest accent and use loads of colloquialisms, maybe she will find you so difficult to understand she will just stop bothering you altogether!

That kind of remark is invariably made by someone who genuinely believes they themselves don't have an accent, only other people. This is often because they've never moved more than five miles from their birthplace and don't mix with anyone who has.

Everyone has a sodding accent, it's just that you often can't 'hear' your own. Until someone like your idiot colleague piles up.

your colleague is a twat.
be yourself. always.

Is 'talk rough' bad, then?
I guess I'd make it into a joke "Yup, don't get on wrong side of me or I'll whoop your butt" of thing.

Commenting on someone's accent is rude.

A long hard stare at them and then turn away while slowly shaking your head would suffice. They didn't need to tell you about their lack of manners!

colloquialism = tint in't tin (it isn't in the tin)

No one else has ever said anything and as I said my phone voice is actually posh!!! Not usually embarrassed but "rough" is a bit low! This person does seem to chip at me a lot - but doesn't actually speak Queens English herself!

Good Lord! I work somewhere north of Manchester where the local accent grates on me. As much as it annoys me when people tell me I am posh I would never, ever says rude things about the way most of my colleagues talk. Ever! I

Oh I've been told I sound common by my accent. One uni friend told me I was 'obviously working class' whilst the rest were 'middle'. I said 'Mate, we're all students so I think we're in the same social class here aren't we?'. Anyhoos, transpired my mother earnt more than theirs so mehhhh them . The oddest thing is, people from my hometown think I sound quite 'well spoken' (snobby ).