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Stop Stop Stop doing it

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Leafitout · 02/04/2015 08:19

It is so annoying everytime my next door neighbours go out Bang goes the front door. First the wife does it at twenty past seven in the morning,then the husband at eight in the morning. They do it when they both come home separately. At weekends it can be upto five times a day. I sound like a miserable cow but when I have had pictures falling off my walls, my gas meter being knocked out and cracks appearing around my frontroom windows its pissing me off. It is so loud when they do it

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shewept · 02/04/2015 08:22

Do they realise?

When my dd is in her room, she is so loud. Even turning switches off. Turns out when you are in her room it doesn't sound quite as loud. Its possible they don't realise.

Maybe explain its making your house shake.

IhateStampysVoice · 02/04/2015 08:23

I used to live next door to someone like that, it made my whole house shake.

They were friends of mine as well, I asked them why it happened and it was because the door was swollen with the wet. (They were right, it never happened in the summer). All they needed to do was shave a little off the edge if the door and it would have been fixed.

Have you asked your neighbours?

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 02/04/2015 08:27

As pp says, perhaps they don't reAlise they're doing it.
I don't suppose any of us realise how noisy we are.

Untrevive · 02/04/2015 08:28

My Teen walking about makes every thud grate my nerves. I blame living in houses built using no thought for people living in them. Had to tell DP not to close garage door fully as it really bangs to close it. I then close it gently but it sometimes it doesn't work and i end up having to bang it shut. Tell them and get one into your home while the other slams their door so they can see and hear for themselves.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 02/04/2015 08:37

When we lived in a 70s terrace we could arguments 3 doors away. Now we live in a 50s ex-council. I tested my amp once by asking our NDN to wave at the window when she could hear it. It got painful before she came round.

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Leafitout · 02/04/2015 08:38

This is all year round so maybe the door isn't swollen I don't think. I've been outside talking to her and she will go in and slam the door behind her! Surely then she must realise that it is loud

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Fluffyears · 02/04/2015 08:39

Our neighbour diea this I sit gritting my teeth thinking there are two doors why the fuck have you slammed 3times (we live in flats with a door to get to our front doors). He is an idiot though, he's a teacher and did it at 01.20 one night and I went banshee at him that some of us aren't on summer holiday and have work the next day! Still slams the fuck out of his door Angry

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Leafitout · 02/04/2015 08:47

Fluffy a few times they have come home in the early hours and still slam the frigging door waking us up. I shit myself thinking that someone is trying to kick my door in. It is so unnecessary and rude! And then it takes ages to get back to sleep because rage is running through me whilst they have probably gone to sleep all cosy Sad

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maliaki · 02/04/2015 08:48

You need to tell them about the damage op and the loud noise. Do they own or renting? If renting then you can complain to landlord or estate agent if they ignore you.

Im always careful with doors. Dh not so though he's been better now he's had his ears stringed. In my last place I did slam the doors especially early morning when I left, just for two months before we moved out. Purely because we'd had new neighbors who were so noisy and antisocial, for three months we had asked them not play loud banging music after ten and overnight, not to slam their front door because it shook our joint masionette, not to get into their Wii at two in the morning and start doing just dance, especially on a work day. So it was a pleasure to disrupt them and only then and start ruining their lie ins!

Ifyourawizardwhydouwearglasses · 02/04/2015 08:54

They will never stop.
My mother does this. A cheery goodbye and then slams the door nearly off its hinges. I demonstrated it to her once but she won't accept that she slams it.

So yes I'm projecting and yes I feel for you but I don't know what you can do! Grin

Mrsderekshepard · 02/04/2015 09:01

My husband does this and it annoys the hell out of me, we had a new door fitted b4 Christmas and it didn't close without a mahoosive slam bows it's getting warmer it closes a lot better but he still insist on slamming it Hmm

Binkybix · 02/04/2015 09:04

My upstairs neighbours did this, and so does my DH. I really don't understand why people can't just shut doors.

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Leafitout · 02/04/2015 09:04

We rent from H/A. I fail to understand why they do it because when they come in at the early hours surely they should not be slamming the door. Three times I have had to call out the gas people because our meters are on the wall outside and mine is nearest to their door. So when they slam their frintdoor the meter shuts off grrr! I never slam my door because I always double lock it behind me. Don't know how to approach them on this

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NotOnMyWatchOhNo · 02/04/2015 09:07

If they don't know it's causing a problem then they won't change.
All you have to do is explain nicely.
You should have done this when it first happened.

MorrisZapp · 02/04/2015 09:07

I feel your pain. We live in a block of flats, and the flat two below us is an HMO, and each internal door has to have a mechanical closer on it.

For a while there were a group of lads in there who let the internal doors bang behind them so much that it was affecting our peace, our relationship and our mental health.

We argued and argued with the landlord and finally managed to get him to adjust the mechanical closers. What most people in HMOs do is just wedge the doors open permanently which defeats the fire protection anyway.

It literally drives you mad. Just tell them.

MrsCosmopilite · 02/04/2015 09:15

Can you maybe approach them and explain about the meter? The fact that you have to get people out to fix it because of their door-slamming seems like a good reason.

FWIW, where I used to live, my front door was wooden and would stick in the winter almost every day. We did shave some off it, and then found that it made the problem worse because water got in under the door (depending on direction of the rain, obviously) and made it swell more, and it made the floor wet.

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Leafitout · 02/04/2015 09:18

At weekends I love having a cheeky lie in but They put a sudden stop to it. I sleep in the front bedroom and my DS is in the back room. Even he is woken up by the noise so you can imagine how loud it is. They are nice,We do get on as in a polite hello goodbye thing and occasionally our kids play out together in the street. But she can be a bit moody. Her ds didn't bowl the ball properly once when we were all playing together and she went batshit crazy at him and stormed off back into the house Yep slamming the door behind her.

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DoJo · 02/04/2015 09:24

Maybe their catch is a bit sticky - I know that's why our neighbours sound like they are slamming their door, but it just needs a bit of extra welly to stay shut. You still haven't said if you've actually mentioned it to them - I don't think you can really complain if you haven't.

MrTumblesBavarianFanbase · 02/04/2015 09:25

If you've never mentioned it they will almost certainly have absolutely no idea they are doing anything to annoy anyone. They probably won't think they are slamming it.

It's a bit U to be eating yourself up with rage (or trying to get them into trouble with their landlord) without even talking to them about it first.

If the house is so poorly constructed that next door slamming is doing all that damage, they may not actually be aware you can hear them or that they are being noisy at all ( or they might think you are noisy without you realising!)

Talk to them ASAP.

angelos02 · 02/04/2015 09:30

How can they not know? Genuine question. I see this sort of lack of awareness as to what is going on around people all of the time. I shouldn't be able to hear someone's headphone music when they are in the seat in front of me. Fucking cheapo earphones.

Next time they slam the door, rush out and pretend you think there has been some sort of explosion or something serious. Repeat until the message gets through.

Binkybix · 02/04/2015 09:32

Yes they may well not realise, but WHY don't people realise? Having said that I probably do myriad irritating things that I'm blissfully unaware of.

angelos02 · 02/04/2015 09:35

I think I am hyper-aware of noise so am very sensitive to it. Luckily I don't have any neighbours so can go for days not having to hear/see anyone.

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Leafitout · 02/04/2015 09:36

Having pictures fall off the wall, gas meter being knocked out, cracks in the walls and being woken up by this door slamming does give me the rage. Surely it would you especially as she did it infront of me when she went back into her house after we had a hello. From her doing that she should be totally aware of what she is doing. I have not tried to get them into trouble with our landlord and would speak to them first. But as I said she can be moody so it's about picking my moment and how to go about it

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Leafitout · 02/04/2015 09:42

Them Coming in at two thirty in the morning and slamming the frigging door gives me extra rage.
Angelos I would look like an explosion at half two in the morning if I went out there not a pretty sight but good idea for a reasonable time. I like your come back on this

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Psipsina · 02/04/2015 09:50

Can you move? I know it sounds drastic but it sounds like it's you or them tbh. Sympathy.