Feel like losing my mind whenever DS forgets his glasses, actually experience physical distress symptoms surely this is not normal?

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DS aged 9. Near-sighted. Wears glasses since going to school.

He's my youngest (of two). I've always been a bit sensitive about him, he's always being more "lost", or "vulnerable", can't quite describe it.

Anyway, we've always had to yammer on at him about being responsible for his stuff, remember your books, homework, sneakers etc.

The glasses seems to be bothering me more. He's had his glasses broken three times since school started. He's left them behind in school numerous times. Today, when I realised they were missing again, I felt physical pain in my chest and my breath came short. I am normally quite healthy. I couldn't even yell at him.

for the record, I am not SAHM and don't consider myself an overly obsessive, "hovering" type parent. I don't know why i feel this way about his bloody glasses!

I guess AIBU, but how can I not be U?

Oh I think you need to see the doctor OP flowers] that's not normal at all and sounds like severe anxiety. Which there is loads of help for. Make an appointment tomorrow!

I mean!

It does sound a pretty extreme reaction that sounds as if it's caused by anxiety. As MrsF says, there is so much that can be done to help anxiety, it is worth seeing your GP. It's awful to feel this way. the worst that can happen when ds forgets his glasses, is that he is going to find his day a bit more inconvenient if he can't see clearly enough. Talk to your GP because you shouldn't have to feel so anxious.

Are you worrying about money? Or is it an "illogical fear"? Agree it sounds like you need to talk to the GP, as its not normal to feel like this but it is incredibly common!

In the meantime, could you say to yourself 'I'd prefer not to feel like this but I know I can handle it '? I find this very helpful. Agree, it's anxiety, do see the dr.

I can understand why you feel like this. I think it's the thought of Ds not being able to see properly without them (don't know how bad his eyesight is) so the thought of a child you already think of as being vulnerable being more vulnerable (iyswim). Even I felt a bit sorry for him when I read this and I don't even know him! How do his glasses get broken? Is it just clumsiness (which would be annoying) or is someone else breaking them? I think the short term answer (the long-term one being to teach him to be more responsible with his stuff - not easy with boys as I know myself) is to get him a spare pair of glasses (or even 2) so that it is not such a disaster if he forgets them or if they need to be repaired. That way he could have a spare pair at home and even a spare pair at school in case they get broken during the day.