To be hesitant over this offer?

[NYE2015]

DC aged four has been invited to a classmate's home for dinner.

I've never met the parents and have no idea where they live, so feel it is better to meet together with the children first.

I suggested we meet over the Easter holidays, but have had a reply suggesting we organise the original plan after the Easter break.

It's just doesn't sit comfortably with me to do this and I hope I'm not being PFB parent.

AIBU?

I get why you're hesitant. Why don't you invite friend to your house instead? If they're really dense you might have to spell it out to them that you aren't comfortable having them host your child in your absence without getting to know them a little better.

I host lots of play dates and it's very rare for my ds to get invited back. Having other children round without their parents is only just beginning at 4. I've previously invited patents to accompany their dc when they visit us just so they can get to know us. So I don't think yabu.

No YANBU

Just say your son is too young to go to their house unaccompanied and you would prefer to meet up at the park/soft play.

I suppose it begs the question what age would be appropriate to allow your child to be picked up from school and taken to the house of people you have never met?

It is not appropriate! I want to know the people my DC are with! They are my responsibility, I have to protect them and know they are safe (to the best of my ability).
Even at 8 and 9, as mine are, it would not happen! Even some people I know do not get play date privileges! Or maybe they will when hell freezes over!

I'd just sat at the moment child isn't confident enough to play at someone's house who they don't don't and sugguest park/ soft play/ you hosting etc. I have a 4 year old and I wouldn't be uncomfortable so I think YANBU

YANBU, I wouldn't be comfortable with this plan. On first play dates I've always taken my child over to the friend's house, to get to meet the parents and see where they live. Same when I hosted.

just ignore their text and hope they dont mention it again.

I dont see the point in playdates

I always make it clear that I am more than happy for a mum to come over too on a first play date. I would just say to them that your child is shy and you would rather come with to settle them in or meet at the park.