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AIBU?

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Spoilt or greedy?

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ChickenDipper22 · 01/04/2015 15:09

Can a 7 month old be greedy or is he just being spoilt?
He is well fed, he has 3 to 4 9oz bottles a day, 1 bottle of baby juice as he wont take water. Also 3 meals a day plus snacks in between yet every single time me or DP bring our food in he will stare at us all the way through frowning and whining until we give him some, if we don't give him some he will scream the place down... He's almost like a begging dog!

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ChickenDipper22 · 01/04/2015 17:36

Don't seem to get any response in any other topics that's why I come here x

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ChickenDipper22 · 01/04/2015 17:38

Goldmandra - I don't really want to eat the same stuff as my baby, we all have our own tastes and I like unhealthy stuff, ha!

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RoganJosh · 01/04/2015 17:39

If you're eating unhealthy things you need to do it where he can't see.

Goldmandra · 01/04/2015 17:43

I don't really want to eat the same stuff as my baby, we all have our own tastes and I like unhealthy stuff, ha!

So do you never intend to eat as a family then?

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ChickenDipper22 · 01/04/2015 17:45

Of course, but when he's older he won't have to eat baby food will he

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Goldmandra · 01/04/2015 17:47

but when he's older he won't have to eat baby food will he

He doesn't need to eat 'baby food' now. He can eat the same food he will eat as a toddler, preschooler, preteen, etc.

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ChickenDipper22 · 01/04/2015 17:50

Well at the moment we eat at different times. I only have 1 proper meal a day and I like to enjoy it without having to feed him the same time, I do give him finger foods when we're eating as well

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RoganJosh · 01/04/2015 17:55

I think you need to get used to a different idea of mealtimes for the next few years really. What happens at lunch at the weekend? Do you feed him separately? That's sad if so.

Goldmandra · 01/04/2015 18:11

You're a family. Your child needs to learn to sit and eat with you.

While you see feeding your child as a chore and your food as separate from his food, you're never going to resolve this conflict.

Make some adjustments so that you can start a good healthy family routine of eating the same foods at the same times and mealtimes will work better for everyone. In fact, you might even find yourself enjoying them

calmexterior · 01/04/2015 18:17

Haven't read the whole thread properly but 'baby juice' is so bad for his teeth. Sometimes first teeth come through black due to drinking this through a bottle.

calmexterior · 01/04/2015 18:17

Babies only need to sip water for practice if that, milk is good.

AGirlCalledBoB · 01/04/2015 18:25

He really does not need to be eating baby food, he can eat normal food. I think you either need to cook meals suitable for all the family and eat together, or if it is really bothering you then eat out of the sight of him.

He is showing normal approaches to food so he is certainly not spoilt or greedy. He just wants to be like his parents. It's annoying when you are trying to feed the baby and feed yourself. Can he sit in his highchair and have finger foods while you eat dinner.

Nanny0gg · 01/04/2015 18:28

So the OP is never allowed to eat dinner at 7 or have fish and chips or a Chinese takeaway because they must always eat healthy food at the same time?

Maybe her husband comes in too late and she wants to eat with him?

Only on MN...

treeshine · 01/04/2015 18:34

YABU to be giving a 7 month old juice!!!

nobodyknowswheremyjonnyhasgone · 01/04/2015 18:44

I think that's missing the point Nanny.

The OP asked if the baby is spoilt or greedy because he wants to share their food. People are saying the baby's completely normal.

So the choices are either eat together and let him share, but make sure he doesn't eat too much but the OP says she doesn't want to eat things that are suitable. Fair enough, then when eating those things eat separately, but at some point most people know its a good idea to eat as a family when you can.

Most people will mix and match. Some meals eaten together, but probably for most with young children lots of meals are eaten after DC have gone to bed.

But expecting a baby who likes food to watch you eat without complaining when you don't share is a bit pointless.

Think there's been a few nasty comments but don't think anyone's suggested the OP never has a takeaway!

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ChickenDipper22 · 01/04/2015 18:45

I AM NOT ASKING FOR ADVICE ON THE JUICE, THANK YOU!!!

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nobodyknowswheremyjonnyhasgone · 01/04/2015 18:50

OP, my teeth were wrecked by a juice as a small child, which went into adulthood as by then I hated water. Its not an old wives tale. Babies won't dehydrate themselves at this age as they get plenty of milk. One of mine refused it at first but because of my history I didn't give in, and just left baby bottles of water lying around the floor when they learnt to crawl, eventually they started to drink it. Most important thing is not to offer juice as an alternative to a water refuser.

nobodyknowswheremyjonnyhasgone · 01/04/2015 18:50

Oh dear cross posted.

formerbabe · 01/04/2015 18:58

Some very mean responses on here. Fwiw, I rarely ate my meals with my babies, it's actually quite difficult to eat a meal with babies and toddlers... especially if you are spoon feeding, picking food up off the floor, making sure they don't choke etc... now they are school age, we eat together at the weekend at lunchtime, but I rarely eat dinner with them. They eat their dinner at 4.30pm...no way am I eating my dinner then. I wait till they are in bed and eat my dinner with a large glass of wine! Do all of you on here eat dinner every night with your kids? What time do you do this?!

nobodyknowswheremyjonnyhasgone · 01/04/2015 19:09

I eat with the kids at the weekend and on holiday.

Think the responses were because Op seemed to be asking about eating with a baby, not asking if its ok not to, which ofcourse it is!

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 01/04/2015 19:17

It was me who asked about baby juice; I am an old gimmer, (50) and there was no such thing when mine were babies. I'm sure if you carry on watering it down a bit more each time you'll soon get him to take plain water OP. FWIW, sounds like a stupid irresponsible product for Heinz to be making.

My kids always pretty much what we ate; if we were having a curry I'd give them plain rice and cook a bit of the chicken without the sauce, that sort of thing. Bottom line is OP, if your child sees you eating unhealthy stuff, they are going to want unhealthy stuff too.

I think your husband needs to understand a bit about babies; they can't be spoilt or greedy, they just have their needs and no way to articulate them except by whining and crying. If you don't want him to cry, then you have to meet his needs.

fruitpastille · 01/04/2015 19:20

My 13 month old always wants my food. It's normal. If mine isn't suitable I try to fob her off with something else.

For constipation I add some extra water (an ounce or two) when making up bottles if water is refused.

99pokerface · 01/04/2015 19:22

I think may be just likes a dinner

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