Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think he should've just taken DS to nursery?

16 replies

HopLittleBunny · 01/04/2015 09:21

So ill. So annoyed at DP. Lost all perspective. I've had a really nasty cold for over a week. It's been 7 days since I last breathed through my nose. The resultant congestion has been like having a permanent red wine hangover, without having touched a drop. Decongestants aren't shifting the bulk of it, but have produced the delightful side effect that I keep dribbling see through greenish water. A lot of it. I was stuffing tissue up my nose last night and it was soaked through and dripping within 10 minutes. All night, so I kept waking with a wet face, having to shift around the towel I was sleeping on so I didn't leak onto the pillow. I can hardly swallow or speak. All movement is made at the pace of an arthritic 80 year old after a long horse ride.

DP has invited people (mostly his friends, one of our mutual friends) over for an egg hunt and BBQ this weekend. Some are staying over, so the bedrooms need sorting out to accommodate guests, the garden wants tidying and the house needs decluttering for all the kids to hunt eggs. DP will have one day to do all that, so it won't get done because he'll spend 4 hours going to the butchers for the BBQ meat, so I will get left trying to do the bulk of it.

I asked DP yesterday if he could take DS3(3) to nursery this morning so I could sleep in. It would make him 10 minutes late for work, but that's not a set in stone start time, he could've checked yesterday that his colleague would be in on time to open up. He's going to be working late tonight anyway so an extra 10 minutes won't make that much difference. He said no, they're all trying to get everything done so no one (4 staff on site) has to go on over the Easter weekend. Unless they get a call, in which case they are in anyway. For the sake of him not being 10 minutes late, when it doesn't matter a huge amount, I have to drag myself and the small one the 10 minute walk to nursery in the gales still blowing around, across an open park so it'll be really buffeting about. Then come back, and only then can I go to bed to try and get some rest. Except I won't be able to sleep properly because I've already been up and out so woken myself right up. I have to do the return journey at 1 to collect DS3 then will be on my own with him and the other DSs until around 8.

Have I lost the plot entirely and fallen into a snot lined pit of self pity, or is DP being a cockwombling arseface?

OP posts:
Beth2511 · 01/04/2015 09:25

Sounds completely selfish. I wouldn't be doing any of the prep for the weekend event either, if he wants it he can do it.

Salmotrutta · 01/04/2015 09:27

No, no, no.

He invited the people you say?

Well then, he sorts it all out since you aren't well.

thats all.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 01/04/2015 09:28

Yes he's being a twat not doing the nursery run, selfish and uncaring.

Was the weekend agreed before you became ill, am I sensing some annoyance that it's mostly his mates invited to the bbq?

FishWithABicycle · 01/04/2015 09:30

Yes he's being selfish. Don't do any of the prep work for his weekend. You're ill.

ilovelamp82 · 01/04/2015 09:32

Yep. Very selfish. I wouldn't be martyr and sort anything out for the weekend. Spend the time in bed getting well while he sorts it out for all his mates.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 01/04/2015 09:34

He is being a selfish cocknugget.

Even DH, who has form for extreme self-centredness, will take DD to pre-school if I ask him to. It makes him around 10 minutes later than usual too (although this is not a problem with his employer).

MrsBungle · 01/04/2015 09:37

Yep he's being selfish. Do not do any prep for the weekend. Hope you feel better soon, I've currently got a chest infection and feel crap too.

GerbilsAteMyCat · 01/04/2015 09:40

If your nose is doing as you describe then you probably have sinusitis. dr and antibiotics for you!

dreamingbohemian · 01/04/2015 09:42

Yes he's being a twat

Let him do all the prep as he invited people. If it's not done, it's not done, that will be his problem.

And have you been to the GP? because that could be a nasty sinus infection instead of a cold and some antibiotics would help a lot

LaurieFairyCake · 01/04/2015 09:42

Selfish

And if I was coming to visit you I'd rather you told me about your grotesque sounding cold and I wouldn't come within ten feet of you.

It's a stupid idea to have visitors when you sound so ill Flowers

Salmotrutta · 01/04/2015 09:45

Actually it does sound more like sinusitis tbh and that's worth a GP appointment.

CurbsideProphet · 01/04/2015 09:45

You poor thing. I agree that sounds like a sinus infection.

Do the friends know you are ill? I would hate to go and stay with a friend who is ill and should be resting, not hosting.

tiggytape · 01/04/2015 09:51

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ChipDip · 01/04/2015 10:01

Yadnbu! Why are you even questioning whether you are UR, he is such a selfish twat. You're ill fgs, he should be helping his own kids out.

HopLittleBunny · 01/04/2015 10:10

I know most of the people coming for the BBQ and all those staying, who I get on well with. I don't have a problem with the guest list, I mentioned that it was primarily DP's friends who he invited because to my mind, that makes the event his responsibility. So I suppose its also his responsibility to let the guests know I have the plague. I'll poke him to get in touch with them.

My immune system has been so low as to be non existent for a while, so I do think this is just a normal cold that I just cannot seem to fight off. Certainly no one else in the house has so much as a sniffle, but I'll make sure the guests are made aware anyway. Fortunately all the people coming that I know are thoroughly decent sorts who wouldn't expect bells and whistles hosting if they knew I was ill. I'll feel bad if it isn't done right though. If one is hosting an egg hunt, one does it properly to make it a magical afternoon for the kids, not a halfhearted 'lob some eggs under the trampoline' effort, but I think I'm going to have to step back and lower my expectations on that one.

DS isn't going to nursery now. I just can't get him there. He has just been allowed discovered play doh. DP picked some up last night and cream of tartar so I can make my own (glitter!) which I thought would be a perfect low effort activity for DS to do while I keep an eye on him from the sofa and rest. DP left it in the boot of the car. He has the car with him at work.

This has gone passed selfish, beyond LTB and into 'get him under the patio' now, hasn't it?

OP posts:
MrsSubway · 01/04/2015 10:40

I sympathise. My DH is always --a selfish fucker the same when I'm unwell and won't lift a finger to help.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread