to see ex regarding paternity

[traceybaybee]

My ex hasnt been in contact with me since december and now im currently 30 weeks pregnant. I would like to sort a dna test out for when my son is born (there are no other potential fathers, was with ex 3 years). He however doubts paternity saying hes 50/50. He is allegedly emigrating but i dont know how much truth is in that. I had a look online at the .gov website and at the csa and it says if i am in reciept of a qualifying benefit i can get a remission for the cost of the test, i get esa so would qualify. Would i be unreasonable to visit ex to try and sort this out before i give birth? I just want my son to be able to know who his father is .

You cant put him on the birth certificate anyway, dna test or not, without either a court order or his say so.
If you know he is the father just proceed anyway. I dont see why you need someone else to pay for a paternity test in these circs?

Out of interest, where does he say that he is emigrating to? Does he have contacts in another country or the skills to make himself attractive to employers? Did he ever speak of a deep desire to live in such and such a place? Like you, I smell bullshit.

Good luck with your pregnancy and, as others have said, you know he is the father of your child but he obviously has no intention of being a dad.

Its not that i want him to step up and be a dad i want him to provide for his child. He had said when we last spoke at christmas not being part of the wee ones life would be the hardest choice he ever made. lala his sister emigrated to australia the tail end of last year then it was he was going over. First id heard of it that he wanted to move there. Yes he has trade skills that are desirable over there.

If he is going to Australia, I understand that there is some sort of arrangement to get these dead-beats to pay up. See this page - I'm not sure if paternity has to be proved first, however. If you can enforce once he is there, then you may have best of both worlds: little contact but regular child maintenance. Good luck.

Thank you for that link thats most helpful of you :) x