rsvps

[Sandbrook]

Apologies if this has been done before but we have received a wedding invite today. No rsvp cards enclosed just an email address to confirm to.
Mil & fil are also invited & mil has just rang asking if I want her to pick up an rsvp card for me while she's getting hers.
I told her I was just responding by email as invite instructed but mil is saying that it's rude of me not to send an rsvp. Also rude of b&g not to send them in the first place.

I don't care what b&g send or don't send ... It's their wedding but am rethinking reply.
Is sending an rsvp card rude?
Should I just reply by email?

Etiquette consensus please? I think I am of the opinion, you do as they do so email it is??

I sent out RSVP cards and pre-printed stamped envelopes with my invitations. I really liked getting them through the post and they all matched my stationery theme

With no instruction on RSVPing, I send a card. If there is a specific method indicated e.g. email, I would email.

Reply by email as per the B&G's request!

I'm currently sending out invites for an event, where I have asked to RSVP to an email address because that's the most practical thing for me to collate.

I'll be a little baffled if people start sending me RSVP cards instead.

I'd say it was most polite to RSVP in the manner requested. If one also wished to send a card to congratulate and thank then that would be an added bonus.

I expect the couple will have a spreadsheet and may wish to cross reference acceptance emails at some point. Also to send further queries etc. I expect that's how its done if you have a big list.

As ^^pp says above, add Mil's acceptance to your email and do her a favour.

Reply by email, it's far easier for bride and groom. Tell the old fashioned ones to keep up. Did people still send carrier pigeons when Royal Mail was established?? No they adapted and sent letters. Wake up folks technology is good!!

Email will be fine. We were recently sorting through our dumping ground cupboard and found a big box of wedding rsvp cards people had sent us. Straight in the recycling. Save some cash and the environment.

I sent out RSVP cards with our invites as we had a choice of meal and had these options listed on the cards. They were little postcards which had the address printed on the reverse and tick boxes for the meal choices on the front.

We had lots of people who went out and bought a card as well to send their RSVP's in.

I have kept all cards sent.

I would say neither of you are being rude - both are planning to RSVP - its those who fail to bother at all who you have to chase who are the rude ones!

I received a thank you email from bride for being so prompt with my acceptance ??
I have replied to say mils is winging it's way to her via carrier pigeon

If they put an email down then its perfectly acceptable to reply via email. If they wanted rsvp cards them they would have given an address.

"Not at all, sir. We didn’t get any messages and Blackadder definitely
did not shoot this delicious plump breasted pigeon."