To be so mad with my husband snoring that I can't sleep!

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My husband is currently sound asleep next to me after only been in bed for fifteen mins and is snoring like a locomotive. I've asked him to go to the doctors but he keeps putting it off. Any advice before I kick him!

My husband's snoring was so loud it could be heard all over the house. I recently stumbled across a very simple solution. REMOVE HIS PILLOW.

This has been miraculous for me. Some nights he now doesn't snore at all, and on the others a simple dig in the ribs and a "TURN ON YOUR SIDE" sorts it out no problem.

Try it...and good luck!

Acrossthepond - what was the process for getting the cpap - did he have to stop driving / sleep studies?

My dh has been on CPAP for 8 years now - went to the GP, referred to sleep specialist, sleep study done, dispensed a CPAP there and then and has used it ever since.

They are very quiet, and when you get the right mask (there is a huge range of different ones) they aren't that intrusive apparently

If the snoring is coming from his nose then those snoring nose plasters really help. You can get them on amazon

I'm in the US so it was relatively simple. His GP referred him to a sleep center for a study and they prescribed the CPAP. No hoops to jump through. It's covered by our insurance.

There's some sort of British snoring website that DH looked at. They had a questionnaire that suggested his snoring might be solved by a mouthguard that holds his bottom jaw forward. He bought one and we were sceptical but it bloody works. Some nights I wake up and he's so quiet I actually panic that he's stopped breathing.
I made him buy a spare!

I had this problem with DH - though not every night - and wouldn't stop going on at him about it and kicking him awake in the night. He then recorded ME snoring and I was even louder and he'd never ever said anything about it in 8 years!! We agreed to buy some earplugs and both shut up about it :-D

We have had to bite the bullet and I now sleep in the spare room. He makes a joke of it (which is common - even on this thread!) BUT its not funny.

Its horrible. The fact someone thinks it is Ok to keep you awake all night and after all - they cannot help it!

On holidays now we look at apartments.

I have tried ear plugs, they are not great tbh. He has tried nose strips - didnt work. I used to wake him up when he snored but he would wake up and five mins later would be at it again.

It was becoming a real issue in our relationship so I moved into the spare room..

DH sleeps downstairs now. I'm pregnant and finding it hard enough to sleep as it is without listening to him snoring and heavy breathing. He just laughed it off when I recorded him. We're going on a caravan holiday and litho ugh I'm looking forward to it I'm worried about how I will sleep. He will be dead to the world for 10 hours a night so no concerns on his part

Litho ugh? My best auto correct fail yet! Although.

Mine is on a trial with a CPAP after over 30 years of being disturbed. It is fab.

And that's it isnt it - the snorers never see the issue. After all they get lots of sleep!

DH snores like a fucking jackhammer fucking a steamroller. It doesn't matter what position he's in, he snores. Apparently, he snored as a teeny baby too (I'm fucking doomed). He's the only person I know who the "horse clicky" noise doesn't work on.

Currently we don't have a spare bedroom but the sofa was bought because it is 6 feet 6 long and 3 feet wide (if I take the back cushions off - 2 foot 9 otherwise) and I can properly sleep on it. We have just bought our Forever House and are planning to have "our" bedroom at the back and "my" bedroom at the front (with a bathroom and another bedroom in between) so that we remain married for as long as I'd like to.

(of course, I never snore. No. I've never last night woken myself up snoring. And if I did snore, it'd be little, cute, lady-like ones anyway).

One thing my DH said was that he was amazed how much more rested he was once he started using the CPap. He said that he was told that although he was sleeping, he wasn't sleeping deeply enough.

So if your snorer seems to be irritable or tired, another reason to give them to get a CPap.

We have recently had lots of major work done on our house and been camping out in spare rooms whilst our bedroom rewired and plastered.DHs snoring is so bad sometimes I refused to share a smaller bed than our usual kingsize so he slept in one spare room and I slept in the other.Our DCs have all left home and only stay over occasionally.For almost a month I slept blissfully in a totally dark and silent room and was out for the count each night.It made me realise how run down,slept deprived and tired DHs snoring had made me.We still had a cuddle ( and other stuff !)and a chat in one or other room most mornings or before going to sleep.Our bedroom is finished and looks great but reluctantly I've moved back in,and already feel uptight about the noise levels.
I've tried earplugs on holiday but they never seem to stay in.DH hated us sleeping apart, and keeps hugging me and saying it's lovely to be back in our bed.But I'm not sure having had a taste of eight hours uninterrupted sleep ,and I'm secretly longing for an excuse to slope off to the spare room again.
I always thought the CPAP sounded an extreme measure and a major inconvenience but I'm going to strongly suggestible gets to the GP and has a word because he gets so tired sometimes it really can't be good for him either. I've also started to dread major social events where he has a fair bit to drink- admittedly not that often- because the snoring is horrendous then.The no pillow thing sounds worth a try?

My DH snores v badly. I've worked out that it is certain elements that make him snore more loudly:

1. Sheets - they have to be very tightly pulled across the mattress and almost "freshly made" otherwise an unkempt bed makes him snore like buggery

2. Alcohol - the more red wine he has, the louder he snores

3. Position - he has to sleep on his right side otherwise he snores like absolute bugger, especially if he's on his back

4. Pillows - plumped up and higher at the neck end rather than at the head of the bed end, if his neck and head is crooked then he snores like buggery buggery

5. Sleep training - after 11 years of marriage, I can give him a shove with my elbow and he rolls over and stops snoring without waking up

All the above is a right pain and it takes me ages to get the bed ready each day; but it does actually ensure that I get a good night's sleep. Sadly, unless the bed is OCD then he snores badly and I don't sleep at all.

Oh yeah, and earplugs of course!!!

I am the snorer in this house.
I can be so loud I wake myself up.

Ways to reduce it :

• lose weight
• drink MUCH less alcohol
• keep the bedroom cooler

Ways for the partner to cope :

• ear plugs
• spare room
• go to bed first so asleep as they settle you are already unaware

BUT
Definitely go see a doctor as there could be underlying medical causes.

I've already had surgery once and the reasons behind mine are well understood.
OP, your DH needs to get his checked out.