.... to think its ok to do weird stuff when you're under pressure

[takingstock]

When I was separating it was a hugely stressful time. I suffered with anxiety and phobias and, for a short time, paranoia. This meant I wouldn't drink any tea that my soon-to-be XH made for me. Seems ridiculous looking back but at the time it felt like a very real threat. I mentioned it to a friend and she thought it was really odd behaviour and judged me for it.

But I think people do weird stuff when they're stressed like that.

I think being judged is a great way to filter out people who aren't worth my time and trouble. It tells you more about the judges than the judged.

I think it is odd but I wouldn't judge you for it. I wasn't in your shoes, so I don't know what it was like for you.
Are you ok now?

Yep. Fine now but I think I was looking for a "don't worry we all do daft things" from her rather than her knocking me for it.

if a friend told me that i would laugh hard but the type of friend i have, have very similar personalities to me so they would also be laughing.

a friend of mine went through a period of time convinced her boyfriends sister was actually his secret wife. it was hilarious and i couldn't contain myself when she kept trying to explain her theory to me. we still both laugh at that one now.

To be honest, I would never judge you but if I were your friend I'd try to encourage you to speak to a medical professional as this doesn't seem typical to me and I would wonder if it were a symptom of a wider mental health issue.

Your friend was wrong to judge but maybe not wrong if she were concerned.

I suffer with really bad anxiety and depression and during my break up I had bouts of extreme paranoia, it can happen the doctor said. I didn't tell anyone because I knew they wouldn't understand.

Of course I would judge you on this, as it appears to be irrational behaviour.

I would have to think carefully as to what sort of conclusion I came to to.

Nothing odd about that op. I do really weird stuff when stressed. I like the post Ozne did.
We all cope differently .

I would judge, but only in a kind of 'Oh dear, things are obviously much worse for takingstock than I realised as this is a very odd response to the situation.' And then I would try and offer support in whatever form seemed most likely to allay your fears. Just criticising you for your reaction seems to be missing the point entirely on her part - is she usually a good friend?