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to let DD learn the hard way?

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DDDDDORA · 29/03/2015 21:06

DD aged 7 in year 3 just announced that she has homework that has to be in tomorrow.
She normally brings her homework home in a folder but this hasn't come home with her, she claims the teacher told them what to instead giving it to them written down.
It can't be done tonight as it is too long to complete, would I be unreasonable to let her receive a punishment as she forgot about it or should I write a note to the teacher asking that all homework is set in writing in future to avoid confusion.
All homework has been set in writing up till now, DD is upset as she has never missed doing her homework and had always handed it in on time or early.
Just to add I saw the pile homework folders on the teachers desk at pick up on Friday so I know she hasn't forgotten to bring it home.

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Gileswithachainsaw · 29/03/2015 21:08

It's the holidays you have 2 weeks your fine

AlpacaMyBags · 29/03/2015 21:11

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ThankFuckSpringIsHere · 29/03/2015 21:13

I'd send a note in asking what homework was set and when it was due in. It's a bit odd that it's normally sent home in a folder and hasn't been this time. Has the teacher maybe forgotten to hand the folders out but spoken about the homework to the class on Friday?

18yearstooold · 29/03/2015 21:14

At what age do you think the teacher should stop writing it down?

Depending on the task it might be perfectly reasonable to just verbally tell the children

dementedpixie · 29/03/2015 21:21

dd is 11 (primary7) and ds is 8 (primary4) and they have to write their homework down in homework diaries.

dementedpixie · 29/03/2015 21:22

and we are also not on holiday yet

flora717 · 29/03/2015 21:28

What is the task? Is it possible to do in the morning? We do a lot of school reading, spellings, maths practice in our mornings.

Gileswithachainsaw · 29/03/2015 21:31

and we are also not on holiday yet

don't say that. I was hoping op shared my ignorance as to what day it was

if it's a "first offence" she shouldn't get onto to much trouble. what with her only being 7 don't get me started on primary kids and ridiculous amounts of homework

I'd just go with "I forgot to pack it" and do it tomorrow. If it's too long to do tonight it's too much full stop though

SewingAndCakes · 29/03/2015 21:32

I'd let her learn the hard way. Will she have to complete it at break time?

OrinocoTheWomble · 29/03/2015 21:34

At that age they should be made to write it down. DS is in Y4 and can't remember what he had for lunch that day, let alone any homework that is not written in his diary (and he usually forgets what he's written down too!).

CliveCussler · 29/03/2015 21:35

She won't be the only one to have not done it.

It might be that it's the teacher who learns the hard way.

dementedpixie · 29/03/2015 21:35

my dc's teachers sometimes forget to send jotters, worksheets home for homework so they just do it the next day instead

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DDDDDORA · 29/03/2015 21:52

Her teacher is fairly strict so I'm not sure if she will punish DD that's why I thought about writing a note, it is possible that the teacher either got them to write it down and DD has left that sheet at school or the teacher has simply forgotten to hand it out but has gone over it in class on Friday.
Flora - its recount writing about some things that happened at school last week, I'm not sure we can do it in the time we have.
Clive - I hope you are right.
Giles - I wish we did have two weeks but we don't break up till Thursday.

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dementedpixie · 29/03/2015 21:54

Could you do some bullet points in the morning?

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DDDDDORA · 29/03/2015 22:39

Ooh bullet points never thought of that, thanks dementedpixie.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 30/03/2015 00:17

She's 7, years old o.p. Not 27. She's got s life a head of learning.
I don't get her teacher's logical though. Telling children no doubt exited about the weekend, when home work is the last thing on their mind, what she expects from them in their home work. Is she ( teacher) for real. I am 39 and I couldn't retain that information.

SmillasSenseOfSnow · 30/03/2015 00:22

Do 7 year olds get excited about the weekend? I have vague memories of school days being more excitement-worthy than the weekends at that age. Weekends were simply a hiatus, I think.

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 30/03/2015 00:27

I Would write a note, she's only 7! It's very young to start getting tough about homework.

OrinocoTheWomble · 30/03/2015 07:07

SmillasSenseOfSnow Oh yes, 7 year olds (and 8 year olds here) get VERY excited by the weekend!

diddl · 30/03/2015 07:37

Maybe it was in writing & your daughter lost it!

i would clarify first!

Tell the teacher the truth, that your daughter forgot about until too late & now what?

or get your daughter to!

x2boys · 30/03/2015 07:41

Missing the point but my son doesn't breakup for Easter until Wednesday he gets an extra week in the next half term instead.

diddl · 30/03/2015 07:49

If there is to be a note, I would put that your daughter hasn't done the homework due to it being forgotten about until too late & that there didn't seem to be anything in writing this time.

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DDDDDORA · 30/03/2015 16:36

Diddl that is pretty much what I put in the note.
DD managed to get some bullet points down this morning, she spoke to her teacher showing her what she had done (along with my note), the teacher has given her until tomorrow to complete it.
The teacher spoke to me after school and explained that she had asked the children to write down there homework as she hadn't had time to mark the previous homework, she found DDs copied instructions (along with 6 others) at the end of Friday. She said she was impressed with her as she had remembered even if it was late in the day and also because she spoke to her straight away and asked if she could have tonight to complete it.
DD is now doing it but complaining rather loudly about it!

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diddl · 30/03/2015 16:55

Glad it's sorted out.

Yes, it was good of her to remember, albeit last minute.

That can happen when you're older & it is written down.

(so I'm told)

popalot · 30/03/2015 18:03

I'm sure she won't mind, considering she didn't do her bit and mark the previous homework! It goes both ways! If you have a good reason, a chat and a letter teachers are pretty understanding.

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