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AIBU?

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or were my neighbours?

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januaryblues11 · 29/03/2015 11:25

Sorry I know this has been done to death....

last night, about 10pm, the downstairs neighbours start blasting out jungle rock at a bass volume so loud our ornaments were rattling. I was worried about it waking ds so I went down and asked them to turn it down.

They said they were on their way out so it would be gone soon.

half hour later its worse than ever so I called the councils noise patrol. they came round, and were very nice. They agreed that the noise was beyond what anyone should have to tolerate, and they went down to speak to them.

Next thing I hear is the neighbours shouting at the noise control officers, saying that they have to put up with the noise that ds makes in the day (normal 4yo noise, it's not like I can keep him silent, I don't let him wear shoes in the flat ) and that he had had a particularly bad paddy that day and had given her a headache. So they were basically doing it to pay us back !

they kept demanding to know who had reported them. I feel really stressed and upset today. I can't afford to move.

OP posts:

Mousefinkle · 29/03/2015 16:35

There's never any reason to blast music anyway. If you want loud music go to a nightclub. It isn't good for your ears blasting it in such a small space and it doesn't sound great anyway. It's also incredibly selfish, nobody else wants to hear your music. I just fail to see what joy anyone gets out of blasting music.

They did it out of spite as well which makes it even worse. Children make noise, they just do. Short of strapping them to a chair and gagging them there's nothing you can do about that. It's a part of the parcel of having neighbours really, same with hoovers, washing machines, odd bit of DIY etc. Councils won't touch complaints about any of those but loud music is just out of order especially at night time.

MrsFlannel · 29/03/2015 17:00

Firethorn that's what I said....yes...i don't allow noisy toys but children are children and this is not 1814 it's 2014 and we allow them to be playful.

Some people have no choice of buying a house...and have to live in flats. I refuse to make my child silent 100% of the time though I always ensure they don't jump or bang or play loud music.

Firethorn · 29/03/2015 17:53

OP why do you assume neighbours were playing music out of spite? Or in retaliation for your child's tantrum? Maybe they simply wanted to have some fun or party! I don't think it's fair to expect them to be quiet every weekend just because your child sleeps early. And if your child frequently disturbs them they probably expect you to be equally tolerant of their noise!

Binkybix · 29/03/2015 18:10

I think OP said that the neighbours shouted something along those lines.

Loud music after 11pm is defo unfair (that is usual cut off for council intervention unless the noise is ridiculous at more daytime hours).

Until 5am every other weekend puts them into the realm of being selfish assholes.

ThankFuckSpringIsHere · 29/03/2015 19:49

Mrs Flannel, children in flats need to be taught appropriate indoor behaviour. It's not inevitable that they disturb people in flat below. There's no need for them to run, jump, shout or scream indoors. Noisy kids who lack manners and discipline can be every bit as annoying as neighbours who play loud music.

But it's perfectly ok for children to chase sheep?

OP it's not every night and you didn't really tolerate the noise for long calling the council after an hour. I think that was a bit of an overreaction on your part. Children do make noise especially if it's a hardwood floor. Rugs or carpets would probably be a better option as well as trying to speak to your neighbours.

Binkybix · 29/03/2015 19:52

But it's perfectly ok for children to chase sheep

Eh?!

scarletforya · 29/03/2015 19:58

Jungle rock?

ThankFuckSpringIsHere · 29/03/2015 19:58

But it's perfectly ok for children to chase sheep

Eh?!

It was in relation Firethorns other thread.

Binkybix · 29/03/2015 20:00

Aaaah, with you now!

Littlefish · 29/03/2015 20:00

Nice one, ThankFuck.

Firethorn · 29/03/2015 20:28

'But it's perfectly ok for children to chase sheep'

Missing the sheep thread already?

ThankFuckSpringIsHere · 29/03/2015 20:38

Missing the sheep thread already?

Nope, I just find your views on children in flats odd given their God given right to chase sheep on your other thread.

ScotsWhaHae · 29/03/2015 20:52

I was wondering about the jungle rock!

I know what jungle is, I know what rock is but what's jungle rock?

SisterMoonshine · 29/03/2015 20:56

Well if you DS makes so much noise, let them call the noise officers to come and have a listen.

TheRealAmandaClarke · 29/03/2015 21:01

Yanbu
Poor thing. It sounds stressful.

Coyoacan · 29/03/2015 21:10

Just skimmed this, but cannot believe people are saying that children who live in flats shouldn't play as normal children play.

Guess what the OP's neighbours were childen once too and I bet they made loads of noise. All this preciousness about how we shouldn't slap a child and then saying that they should not play in their own home!

Firethorn · 29/03/2015 21:30

'Nope, I just find your views on children in flats odd given their God given right to chase sheep on your other thread.'

I do not think children have any right to chase sheep, nor did I say so on the other thread.

My nieces used to live in a flat, they were taught from a young age not to run and jump indoors, to walk softly, not to make a racket, to be aware of neighbours. There was an elderly couple living below.
There's no need for kids to be noisy and raise voices indoors. Charging around a flat, throwing balls, riding tricycles up and down hall, this is stressful for people living underneath you. Take them to the park or fields to run around, you don't need to inflict it on the neighbours. (Just don't let them chase sheep, feed animals or -god forbid- step off the footpath )

ThankFuckSpringIsHere · 29/03/2015 21:38

It's such a shame they weren't taught to respect animals or other people's land. No fucking wonder they run riot when they're outdoors and become unruly with those restrictions. I suppose though since they're not in their own neighbourhood why should they respect anything around them?

BlackeyedSusan · 29/03/2015 22:41

children make noise. there can be rules about quiet feet on the floor and an effort to put carpet, rugs or mats down, but there is not a lot one can do about tantrums, falls, or general play.

music on the other hand does not need to be loud late in the evening on a regular basis.

Firethorn · 29/03/2015 22:44

ThankFuck, no sadly they were not trained to regard sheep the same way as the elderly neighbours in flat below. Not that sheep shouldn't expect the same level of consideration and respect.

Happily my nieces have learned their lesson and they are now very respectful towards both sheep and humans

StickledPink · 29/03/2015 22:50

Nope YANBU. I wouldn't put up with that, not at all. Isn't there a time that you aren't allowed to make excessive or loud noise between 11.30 pm to 7am? I could be wrong with that timing but DH and I don't tolerate neighbours loud noise sfter this time. It's not on.
I know you said ten pm and it was still playing later, but the fact that it got louder takes the piss. I know you have a 4 year old , me too. They make noise but children's noise ( within reason) is no where near as bad as loud music rattling your ornaments late at night. Don't worry OP. Have a research into sound proofing and see how you go. You don't have to put up with that at all. They sound a fucking nightmare tbh.

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