To say Man Up and accept it????

[Rhymerocket]

I'm so frustrated. Our son is just turned 4 and was diagnosed a year ago with Classic Autism. I love him so much and so does his dad.
His behaviour is very challenging at times and he is non verbal so his speech and understanding of language is minimal to non existent.

I am a SAHM and my OH works away during the week. The issue is he refuses to accept that dS has any negative behaviours and refuses to discuss if I have had a difficult day with him. It's like if he doesn't talk about it it's not true! I need to talk over some things so I can learn to deal with them but he's just not interested.

We have a second son who is Neuro typical.

Would I be unreasonable to tell OH to man up and accept it??????

He is avoiding the subject, when you really need someone to talk to. It must be very frustrating for you.

YANBU.

What does he say when you raise the conversation? Does he flat out accept what your saying or just tells you he isn't interested in even discussing it? How does he interact with him?

One of my relatives once thought his ds's sen, autism would eventually go away given enough time and thought it to be some sort of phase.

It's definitely time to get him involved in a serious discussion.

*refuse to accept it to be true?

He is obviously struggling and using avoidance to deal with his emotions so on that basis ywbu to tell him just to man up.

could you speak to your GP and ask for some counselling for you both in order to deal with it together and help and support each other?

He accepts the diagnosis. However if something happens like he has a melt down, or begins stimming. My OH will say something like oh he's just tired or excited or make excuses and brush it off. Where as it's clearly a sensory issue or a trait. If I push the subject he accuses me of being consistently negative and not giving him a chance.

You need to talk, and it's not acceptable your op won't discuss it. However the expression man up is nt constructive so I would nt use in conversation.

I think it sounds like there is some middle ground to be found. I say this with kindness as it is very difficult and waring looking after anybody regardless of any extra conditions/ difficulties they may have. Sometimes you can get into a negative thought pattern and need someone to be a little more positive. However he seems to be taking it to the extreme and not to be dealing with it. I think you could both do with some specialist help with this. Have you been referred anywhere? The autistic society may be able to help?