WIBU family dinner

[Physcobitch]

I don't speak to MIL or SIL going ok 9 months now.they argued with me at our wedding and the SIL sebd threatening messages to DH about me. We have a 10 month DS who I have no problem dh bringing to see MIL but I have said no to her minding him as I have a few trust issues with her and before wedding there were numerous other things she done to me.

Anyway today SIL son made his confirmation there was a family dinner booked for 6 I wasn't asked (fine by me) while at the confirmation DH text and asked could he bring DS to meal at 6 I had already told him no as 6-7 is bath and bedtime. I am not changing it. He is now saying I'm being rude and spiteful. Maybe I am a bit but I really don't feel I owe SIL anything. This morning DH didnt Mention DS going so I know it was at request of mil or SIL

Sorry cant link I'm on my phone

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a1526606-They-ruined-our-wedding-day-Very-long-rant-story

Just read your thread OMG madness!!! Your DH seems lovely standing by you ??

I have just skimmed your previous thread and it does seem like the problem is with your DH.

You were NC, with good reason. They have previous for threatening violence and generally being unreasonable. WTF is your DH, with all due respect, playing at?

Yanbu
I think its perfectly acceptable for a baby's mother, especially when she is the main carer, to decide that interrupting hi s routine is not acceptable on occasion.
It is possible that your intention has a "spiteful" undertone but not going out for dinner at his usual bath time will not be detrimental to your ds.
Also, If somebody had threatened me my dh would not be going out to eat with them. It just would not happen.

Two separate things here. It is ridiculous to say that a mother has to give permission for a father to take a baby out.

BUT. If all you say is true, your husband should not be going out with these people at all. With or without the baby.

Time for you to stop acting the dick and stand up for yourself. You have been emotionally abused and threatened by your in laws. Your husband thinks this is the norm as he more than likely grew up in this environment. Put the cock straight and tell him it's you or them. He can't have it all thanks to their behaviour.
Under no circumstances would I allow my children in that environment.
Your son needs to see what a real man behaves like and your DH is not behaving like one now

tough luck sil and dh. she threatened to kick op's head in, keeping the child away is protecting the child from toxic family members.

I haven't read you're other thread OP.

Is your name something your 'D'H has called you?

I'm guessing your pretty young?

Picture this situation 5 years from now or 10. What will they say to your DC? Do you want a husband that doesn't stand next to you? This won't end well if he puts people who threatened you before your feelings.

I've been there and done that. Bit my tongue thinking things would change and blaming it all on them but the truth was they only treaded me like shite was because DH allowed them. I'd be telling your DH how you feel about him spending time with people who threated the mother of his child and I'd also never allow them near your DC