To my friend.
friend went through their 3rd divorce about 2 yrs ago. ive known them about 4 yrs. they are 25 yrs older than me, with kids the same age as me.
friend has in the past few months become increasingly woe is me about everything and today i eventually snapped at them and i think i may have ended the friendship.
everything i say they turn around to tell me that im lucky, or rubbing it in or they are sad or i have it easy.
everything.
i have a cold. they turn it to it being easy for me because im young/ fit/ have a husband
i am making dinner. they turn it to how horrible it is to cook alone, or eat alone, or food shop alone.
i say im spending the weekend cleaning. well at least i have people to clean up after/ there are people to help/ there is a reason to tidy up cause i have friends.
i say im going somewhere. im lucky to know people.
today there has been, me saying i had to get off the phone, it was dinner time at the zoo, reply was you're lucky to have someone to eat with.
yesterday i said i couldn't meet up as i was seeing an old work friend, reply was well at least you have some.
last week i said i was going to the gym, and that was turned to me having loads of free time and enough money to waste.
tonight there was another dig about being alone and having no friends and i snapped.
they text and said they were having a curry out and enjoying a nice bottle of red., i said ''damn that sounds good!! i bloody love curry, veggie wraps here tonight''
they replied '' rub it in why dont you, heres me having a curry at the restaurant on my own billy no fucking mates and you rub it in that you are with all your family''
i replied, ''how the hell was i meant to know who you are with? i have a life too, i know you are unhappy at the moment, but i cant stop living my life because yours makes you unhappy. you keep going on about being lonely and having no friends, well stop bitching at the ones you have and enjoy the friendships on offer.''
i know that the examples are a bit sparse, but its constant. daily.
i invite this friend over for dinner, they go on holidays abroad with family and friends, they have a lodger and a job so they see people daily.
im just fed up with them trying to make out that im some evil bitch for living...so...was i a total cow and should i say sorry?