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Posted for traffic - how do I find confidence in myself to go for promotion

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superdeeduper · 25/03/2015 17:07

Sorry, not really and IABU but need advice on my employment situation. I don't want to say where I work as don't want to out myself. Been in my job a few years but it has slowly been going downhill. We also had someone come to our work from a different department who has been very difficult to work with. He is rude, arrogant, undermines everyone and behaves however he likes. He appears to have gotten away with this behaviour due to one of his parents being a manager within the workplace and people too scared to speak up.

I myself have had a run in with him due to not tolerating his behaviour resulting in him screaming in my face. He has apparently been spoken to (not disciplined) about this but it doesn't appear to have stopped him anyway. He creates a horrible atmosphere in the workplace and on a daily basis people are complaining about him. I will admit that he has knocked my confidence as I have never had anything like this with a work colleague. (He is a renowned bully too)

Anyway we now have a new manager who is not putting up with his shit. He is innovative, bringing in well overdue changes and we are looking forward to the difference this is going to make. This new manager also wants me to take on a managerial position too, something I would never have had the confidence to apply for. All my colleagues are also saying I would be great in this role too.

Deep down I would love this managerial role. Admittedly the bully has slightly more training than me but nothing I couldn't catch up. I also have the people skills and the respect of colleagues across the board. I have been told I am very much a valued member of the team.

How do I take on this role whilst dealing with the bully who I know is going to undermine me at any chance he gets. He loves to point if people don't know something and he does. I am sure that he will feel that the job should be his too. What is the best way to deal with people like this? I don't want to give up what would be a great opportunity for me just because of this asshole!!

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WashingUpFairy · 25/03/2015 22:19

Just go for it. You'll never know until you try and may regret letting the opportunity slip away. It would tell you what sort of person is actually valued there as well. Somebody like you or a pillock like him. Good luck.

lougle · 25/03/2015 22:21

He can know stuff you don't know. Let him know it. Let him tell you it. But the job is yours so your the boss and you decide when you need to know what he knows.

UghReally · 25/03/2015 22:22

You are being totally unreasonable ;) jokes, couldn't resist.
just go for it!x

lougle · 25/03/2015 22:22

you're* autocorrect.

twentyten · 25/03/2015 22:27

Make a list of everything you have achieved. Up your power dressing. Take no s@£&£&. Go for it!,,

GiddyOnZackHunt · 25/03/2015 22:33

You apply for the role knowing that the manager and most of your colleagues are cheering you on. A degree of humility whilst believing you could grow into the role is a great starting place.

I had some problems with a colleague that were actually resolved when we went head to head for a promotion! They seemed to accept the ruling and stop competing.

dryshampooer · 25/03/2015 22:36

Think about the regret you will feel seeing someone else in this job, when you know how great you would be in the role. Think about all the things you have in your favour. You have a good manager, who has faith in you and wants you to take this role. You have colleagues who like and respect you - sounds like they want you to progress too.
This guy is an idiot - but everyone at work can see it!
Don't kick yourself in a few weeks time watching someone else doing "your" job. Go for it!

Boardingblues · 25/03/2015 22:41

You would be U if you did not go for it. If you don't then you are letting the bully win. Bullies only bully because they are scared. In applying and getting the job you will weaken him and will be in a more influential position to curb his behaviour. Do it, but do not, under and circumstances let him see even the merest hint of fear… He may have more training but bullies are weak, so be strong and piss all over him!

IrenetheQuaint · 25/03/2015 22:45

Yes go for it! Talk through scenarios with your boss first - sounds like you'll be supported in your new role.

emwithme · 25/03/2015 22:52

In last week's Grey's Anatomy I know I know Dr Shepherd was doing a V Difficult surgery and while she was scrubbing up she was standing in a "superhero" pose (you know the one - legs wide, hands on hips making a triangle on each side of the body, head up high and proud) - apparently doing this for 5 minutes makes you FABULOUS and WONDERFUL and no one can beat you.

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