to not let my child and his friend in as they are supposed to be having a play date at friend's house

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I live opposite a recreation park, as such I get a lot of children coming round my house without formal invites. My children LOVE having others round to play so I have quite an open house. However, it does get straining every now and again.

When my children get invites to play around other houses it is exciting for them, but they are at the age where they end up at the park. They then end up around here. So when I think I am getting a break, I'm not.

My son has just turned up with the boy he is supposed to be with - but at his house, not mine!!!! So I told him to go away.

Yanbu but I'm sure your son thinks your the devil now!

YANBU

I've kept to a strict rule with my 3 and that's that they don't turn up out of the blue, with friends.

They can have them round as often as they like with a bit of notice, but I'm not running a soup kitchen for kids

I bet his face was a picture.

Is he at that age now where it's not a playdate but just 'hanging out'. There's a bit of a funny transition period, isn't there, where it's a bit of both?

YANBU.

He is 11, in the local secondary school where every child seems to 'hang out' in the park - but with out a drink or access to the loo. Soooooooo they pop round here for both.

However, he is on a formal invited play date with tea at their house. Except those parents have let the children out to the park, so they have ended up trying to get in here.

I do feel a bit bad telling them to sling their hook.

I do think it's unreasonable to not let them use the loo to be honest.

Well, there is a loo in the park but as it is a public loo there is no loo roll in there. So I end up with half a dozen boys having a crap in my loo each day!!!!!!

So your house has become the free toilet / drinks bar for half the local kids...?
I wouldn't be having that for a SECOND.
tell them to either take drinks with them or bugger off home for refreshments

Buy

this toilet paper

that'll stop em!

ive read this before.

seems to the Dilemma of people living near or next to Parks

OP I feel for you.

I am in a very similar situation .

School holidays and weekends drive me potty as all the children on our road come to visit my DC as we have a courtyard outside our house.

I pay my neighbour to child mind occasionally after school ... But in school holidays and weekends I always end up supervising everybody else's children out the front and have them traipsing in and out of my house.

I neeeed to have some firm boundaries now the weather is getting better because it pisses me right off!!

All the mothers in the street get a break while muggins here has them all out the front playing getting unruly, crying, falling over, asking for drinks snacks etc etc etc.

It wouldn't bother me everybody played fair and my DC were invited back to the others children's gardens but they never are.

I do not judge you at all for sending them back!

And the loo thing... I always send them home.

I have enough with my own DS wee dribbles around the toilet area never mind those of countless other boys.

I have the mixed fortune to live a few minutes walk from my DS high school so cue a line of teenage boys waiting to use my loo each and every lunchtime as the school toilets are bogging and when they are just generally out and about. I should charge them 20p a trip to break even on the toilet roll.

This takes me back a few years. We were the only family in the road with a climbing frame, so were a magnet for my children's friends. we had a back gate to the garden which I kept bolted as my elder daughter was still a toddler and I didn't want her escaping, so I was constantly answering the front door to my own boys and various friends. Not only that I was providing orange squash and biscuits for the various children who were around when Playschool was on.

Yy to all of above.
My ds 7 plays with 8 other children on our road.
It drives me bonkers that I seem to be the parent that has all these children in my garden , all weekend. Constantly having doorbell going, fetching water or snacks .ive even had other children knocking at mine to play with one of the children argh.
What really irritates is that one of the boys mums works nights and I seem to have become an unpaid daytime babysitter for her son whilst she sleeps at weekend and my son never gets invited back to his, so unfairly or not, I decided last weekend that I'm going to limit the time I have all these children in my garden and I'm imposing a strict 3 child rule. More than 3 then they can all play out (bugger off!) in the front or in somebody else's garden..... Grrrr
I really feel im being a grinch but it pisses me off that all these other parents get nice peaceful sat/sun afternoons whilst im entertaining their kids, feeding and watering them, answering front door etc.especially since I work full time in a tough job and some of them are p/t, so the weekend is when I need to catch up on stuff.
I was never allowed to have friends in as a child due to my dad brining us up single handed so ive promoted playing with friends and playing on trampoline in garden, but it's all becoming too time consuming now!!!! Bah humbug x

I'm a Childminder, and my children now know not to broadcast it to people on holiday!
We have a touring caravan and when DS was younger, he used to invite kids to our caravan to play as " Mum won't mind-she's a childminder".Bless him-he didn't realise that, actually, MUM IS ON BLOODY HOLIDAY,HAS OTHER PEOPLE'S KIDS IN THE HOUSE ALL DAY SO CERTAINLY DOESN'T WANT THEM IN THE CARAVAN WHILST SHE'S DRINKING WINE!!
The crunch came when we were at one site, and DS went to the little park to play.I heard him shout to the other kids "don't worry-I'll get my mum-she'll sort it out;she's a Childminder"
I ended up cleaning bird shit off the slide...all the way down it ...the bird couldn't have aimed better.......!
They keep their mouths shut now!

Brownsofa we are living parallel lives.

Thank god I found this thread.

I thought it was just me getting racked off with it.

I had my neighbours child come round so early in the school holidays she asked if she could have breakfast at ours!!

Hooker LOL at your post.

Blessed,
Are we miserable old carmudgeons or right though?!