Aibu to be annoyed at 'dh' and ds over dd birthday

[Bluethirsty]

There are other things going on which may be influencing me on this so I wanted to see if it's really me being ur.
It's my dd 10th birthdAy today. Last night I am wrapping the last of the presents when dh comes in and just say 'where's the card to sign'. I had mislaid it so just said I'm not sure if I've got one. He looks annoyed and walks off, later I find it and leave it out for him to sign when he comes to bed. He does this with no comment and goes to bed. Now background to this is that he knows only one present that has been bought for her birthday and has not even asked if I have got her anything else/enough and the present he knows was sorted by me. It then occurs to me that ds has not even asked about a card or present for him to give (I normally sort).
I think well at 15 surely he should be buying one and a small present himself so I leave it and go to bed.

In the morning ds wanders in as dd is opening presents and stage whispers where's my card to which I reply, I don't know I thought at 15 you might have sorted.

Dh and ds seem annoyed with me at this. So my aibu is, I have sorted every present , card, party basically everything to make my dd birthday enjoyable for which we all receive the thanks from dd. is it ok that I feel really pissed off at the lack of gratitude from the 'boys' and that they actually seem annoyed with me!

Thanks human. I think I have. Yes (I really hope) she had a lovely birthday

For DD, I tend to buy and wrap but show DH the presents (as I usually have a better idea of what she wants, or what I'm prepared to tolerate in the house!!). I also get the card, I usually make DH write it though. However I'd be well p**sed off if DH was rude or dismissive about the gifts, he knows he's got a good deal.

However, for his family, he's responsible for all birthdays, Christmases and other special occasions. He has to do his own cards and I might sort out his gran, but his parents and brother (SIL & niece) are all him. I might remind him of key dates but other than that, I don't bother. If they don't get anything, I'll totally mention it's DH's fault. He's a big boy and I'm certainly not his mother

It means I don't feel like I'm doing absolutely everything and therefore don't resent sorting out DD.

Is it just your DD's birthday that's the issue or are you also doing all other gift/card buying too? I feel loads better since being only responsible for half the buying.

Regarding your DS, yes he'll need a reminder and let him know beforehand you expect him to sort a small gift and/or a card.

To be fair to your Dh and Ds I think it depends on what way tasks are sorted out in your house. ie. You have always sorted this so possibly your Dh sees it as one of your chores.

In our house there are certain things I sort and certain things Dh sorts. I don't expect him to say Did you sort Dd's prescription with the Dr because it's my thing I sort it. Likewise I don't ask him if he has ordered the home heating oil or thank him for doing it as it's one of his chores.

I don't think you're being unreasonable. At all.