To think its not unreasonable to park on a relatives drive to pick your kids up from school?

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My brother is moving in with his gf soon, she lives right by my kids school, so because they're both out at work during the day, she has said i am welcome to park my car on her drive (private, not shared or anything) and walk to the school instead of being part of the parking melee!

I did it for the first time today, and her neighbour told me off, even though i said DBs GF told me i could.

AIBU to tell her to feck off and mind her own business? (the neighbour, not my brothers lovely gf!)

YANBU to park there but I wouldn't engage any more beyond repeating that you have permission from the owner.

Maybe he doesn't believe you, maybe he thinks it will trigger others to do the same, who knows.

She probably thinks you're lying, tbh

Get your brother's girlfriend to pop over and say yes, it's fine, she parks on my property with my permission please don't approach her again.

She probably just didn't believe you and thought you were a chancer

I'm sure your brother or his GF will tell her now so she'll know.

Sounds like she was just looking out for her neighbours.

Either she thinks you are lying or she wants to avoid the situation where others who don't know the situation start thinking it is OK to park on neighbours drives.

Just ignore beyond saying you have permission. Neighbour will undoubtedly check with your family who will confirm what you have said.

I did just repeat i had permission, the fact i could mention her neighbour by first name might have given away i knew her, lol.

If you've already explained and they're still banging on, I'd just smile and walk right past them next time. It's not really their concern.

And yes, 'Feck off and mind your own business' would be incredibly rude.

It's nice that their neighbour is looking out for them.

No, don't tell her to feck off. She's never seen you before and would have no idea that you had permission.

There may be a huge history of really awful parking behaviour, and so the neighbours may have taken to looking out for each other. Your DBro might be glad to have alert neighbours who watch out for each other. Don't sour it for him.

ITOH, if she turns out to be seriously weird intrusive neighbour, this will be but the first of many anecdotes. Your role then is to help him see the funny side (and thank your lucky stars you only encounter her occasionally).

Yanbu. My brother lives opposite a primary school. He's a teacher at a secondary school elsewhere so is never home in the day. He was ill the other week and stayed at home. He found a guy parking in his drive in the morning and afternoon. He approached him and the guy said he's done it for months. A bit cheeky. Maybe the neighbour feared you'd do the same. I agree, as your DB or SIL to pop around to say it's legit.

Quite a few people might be able to refer to her by her first name. Getting her to reassure the neighbour is definitely the way to go.

I wouldn't tell her to 'feck off'. You don't want to cause issues with your DB's GF, that's not fair on her.

There's presumable a history of poor parking, and she's looking out for your DB's GF. So of course YABU to be so rude.
All it needed was you to explain that it's OK, you know her and have been given permission, and then see if the GF will mention it to neighbour when she next sees her.

i wouldnt actually tell her to feck off, btw, that was a bit tongue in cheek.. i'd be a lot more polite about it.

as it was today i just smiled and nodded and repeated i had permission to park there.

Similar scenario. My uncle lives in a place that is very busy with tourists during the summer. Think a place where it's nearly impossible to find anywhere to park.
He came back home one day and parked in front of his drive (not in it as he was worried that he would get blocked). He got a mouthful of abuse from a passer by as he really wasn't supposed to do that. The guy didn't even stop when he saw him going into the house!

Sometimes, people think they know better and do it all for the 'right' reasons. I'm sure the neighbourg will get used to it :)

we had this my aunt lives really close to a primary school her neighbors knew me (aunt has lived there 50 years so she has seen me quite a bit!) it was actually passers by who were picking up there child from the same school that got the rage about us parking on my own aunties driveway i actually just stood there and laughed at them (i have an inappropriate laugh i actually laugh when im scared nervous or upset its why i dont attend funerals often )

Neither you or your relatives should have to justify yourselves. I wouldn't let them rush to assuage her 'concern'. Just keep doing what you're doing and let her be the one to escalate it, and look like a fanbelt when she does.

Just keep repeating yourself and then ignore. If she persists, tell your Dbro's gf and ask if she could have a word.

I've had this. I told a mummy friend she could park on my drive and my neighbour told her off. All sorted when I mentioned to neighbour that it was ok for just get to park there. Nice to see neighbours looking out for each other.