If I had a pound every time I was told she didn't need help because she was doing okay
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Also if they are coping...that seems good enough.
I'm dyslexic and pretty sure two of my DC are likely to be and I've been told one of my DD wasn't struggling enough to be helped
other a boy they pretty much had low expectations with.
Every Dyslexic person is different.
But also recognise this. I have a different set of problems to my DC - there is overlap and can see they have different areas they struggle with.
One reason we haven't yet had our primary school DC tested is because DH as a lecture and I a dyslexia have encountered people with dyslexic and other who think they know what dyslexia is and use it as a limited potential.
I've honestly had people tell me I can't read upon being told I am dyslexic- despite knowing I have degrees and having witnessed me read things.
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As I said mine are primary school - so for maths we are using mathsfactor - £10 per DC a month to give more lessons and practise in the basic maths. Maths is one of those subjects were you need to build on understanding. I'm not sure what is out there for secondary school level - might well be asking on the education boards - but little and often has made a massive difference there in confidence and ability.
Spelling - apple ad pears deals with punctuation and some grammar as well.
But yes - bit more about dyslexia and other common issues DC can have would be helpful in all teacher training I think.