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27 replies

ilovechristmas1 · 24/03/2015 13:30

sorry but been out for a few hrs came back and said it was deleted,why

was a good interesting thread

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KingJoffreyFanciesDarylDixon · 24/03/2015 13:53

CSA related?

They don't like being reminded that they're useless.

Hurts their feelings...

ilovechristmas1 · 24/03/2015 13:54

yes CSA related

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meglet · 24/03/2015 13:56

the csa got the thread deleted?

Bakeoffcake · 24/03/2015 13:58

Shock that's awful if true.

chickenfuckingpox · 24/03/2015 13:58

the CSA got a thread deleted? and we thought they were useless and couldn't get anything done Hmm Grin

ilovechristmas1 · 24/03/2015 14:01

they what,really says on using Disablist Language

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Number3cometome · 24/03/2015 14:03

It was me!!

I said a word which was 'disablist'

The word I used is a combination of two words, the first being fuck...

Mumsnet emailed me and told me off Blush

I clearly should have called my ex a 'cunt' instead Grin

ilovechristmas1 · 24/03/2015 14:05

FFS language is bound to be "spirited" where the csa and ex's are concerned

and they deleted the whole thread,why just not that section,dosent make sense

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Number3cometome · 24/03/2015 14:08

I asked if they could just remove the word and they said the would suggest I repost, removing the word.

Here's a screenshot of the email:

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ilovechristmas1 · 24/03/2015 14:09

bit heavy handed,what is happening to MN these days Flowers

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Number3cometome · 24/03/2015 14:12

I apologised for the word and if it offended anyone, didn't realise it was disablist, just wanted the world to know how angry I was with my ex

Gruntled · 24/03/2015 14:26

Surely the word is an abbreviation of Fucking Bastard? Maybe I'll use Ingbas instead.

Number3cometome · 24/03/2015 14:27

Yes gruntled, exactly that. Except Musmnet prefers the Urban Dictionary version.

wheresthebeach · 24/03/2015 14:29

They're going to be delighted to see the email with the offending word posted...Grin

And counting til next zapping...and a one, and a two, and a three...

chickenfuckingpox · 24/03/2015 14:30

oooh i can see where they are coming from i think maybe a little over zealous deleting the thread couldn't they have just removed the word?

Number3cometome · 24/03/2015 14:30

I have said sorry Sad

Didn't want anyone to think I was slagging off people with disabilities.

I remain firm with the point my ex is a wanker though and the CSA are a pile of steaming dog shit.

chickenfuckingpox · 24/03/2015 14:32

just looked at urban dictionary i like number three

RainbowFlutterby · 24/03/2015 14:34

Blush I thought it was fucker and bastard too.

But then bastard itself is marital-status-at-birth-ist.

Number3cometome · 24/03/2015 14:35

I'd so love to post a quote, but I love Mumsnet too much to get banned!

ilovechristmas1 · 24/03/2015 14:47

just so ott on there part,i found it supportive and made me feel like there is others in the same position

just got of the phone to the csa not happy

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Number3cometome · 24/03/2015 14:56

I'm thinking of jacking it all in to be fair.

I have had nothing but abuse from the ex today, I left him for DV reasons and I feel they have been totally unsympathetic to that (i.e. by keep telling me to contact him)

Well I did, and I got a message saying this is why he was violent to me, because I go 'on at him'

Glad he admitted it on text I guess.

Well I know the best option for me is certainly to get him removed as PR, but I suspect we will have to go down the step parent adoption route which will be long and arduous.

Until then, I will leave him to dig his own grave and let his own kids hate him (I don't need to say a word, he manages it all by himself)

The stress of £7 (well £6.72 after fees) a week when 6 months pregnant and with high BP is not worth it.

No surprise I ended up having eclamptic seizures in one pregnancy with him and pre-eclampsia in the others.

Perhaps I should try small claims court for stress....

ha!

Anyway, I am very happy now and am incredibly lucky to have a supportive partner who loves my children and helps with the bills!

So sorry to anyone else out there suffering, it really is a massive fucking headache Flowers

ilovechristmas1 · 24/03/2015 15:07

i know what you mean,mine apparrently dosent work or claim benefit but lives in a 2 bed flat rent £150 a week and has a NIL assessment

even the tax office agree's he dosent have the means

bloody feel like paying a private investigator if i could afford

and now the csa have said original cases will be closed over the next few years as they would rather people sought themselves

i pointed out that thats why they contact them as the NRP refuses to pay,im bloody fuming

i also said why dont they send investigators out like the DWP,they said they dont anymore as budget cuts,thanks Cameron

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Number3cometome · 24/03/2015 15:08

Mine claims his children stay over so he doesn't have to pay bedroom tax whilst claiming benefits, but doesn't see the kids.

The CSA and HMRC don't seem to be able to marry up the fact he is a benefit fraud.

ilovechristmas1 · 24/03/2015 15:33

shocking and wrong how they can lie and not be bought to book

scumbags the lot of them

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RandomNPC · 24/03/2015 15:55

MNHQ are behaving bizarrely at the moment