Name changed for this one.
When DH and I got together we had an incredibly active sex life. Once we got over being a couple of young rabbits the amount decreased, but still interesting and satisfying sex. DS1 reduced frequency further, as is normal, but still no complaints.
But since DS2 things have just hit rock bottom. DH has no interest at all in any form of sexual activity. We've talked a lot about it, and there are a number of factors behind it. He's been quite depressed for a couple of years now - we moved for work and have struggled to get to know people. He's working part-time in a job which isn't really what he imagined doing with his life.
He's also developed body image issues. He feels that with the depression and getting towards middle age he's let himself go, and I can't possibly find him attractive any more. No matter how much I tell him and try to show him this isn't the case, he can't get past it.
All of which have made things dry up completely. We've been through similar issues before but then he's at least been happy to help me out on occasions, even if not interested in anything himself. But this time he's not comfortable even doing that. He keeps saying to give him time to get himself back together, but it's taking longer than I think I can bear.
I'm just aware that this is now getting me very depressed, and affecting how I feel about the whole relationship. I feel emotionally isolated and lonely, and don't know what to do. Other than this DH is lovely in every way, but this is starting to damage us - I know that, but I don't know how to fix it.