To be finding this difficult

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Namechanged. :)

A friend has asked me to buy some prescription drugs using my card, although they will transfer the money into my account.

They have a history of addiction where prescribed drugs are concerned and over reliance on prescriptions. This has affected their line of work.

Clearly, they are slipping again but I don't know how I can help. Can anyone help? I am really very worried.

How do you but prescription only drugs???

I don't know. I don't, myself.

Online, I assume, gin.

Who helped this person last time, OP? Is it a relative or a friend?

Obviously you shouldn't buy them for them. You need to be a good friend to them and resist this. I'm not sure what you should do though - would you be able to speak to their GP in confidence?

There are loads of sites that offer drugs for sale that are prescription only in the UK. Sometimes all you need to do is fill in a form online, pay the money & boom - non-regulated prescription only, usually addictive drugs come through your door.

Are you purchasing these over the internet by any chance?

I would have to tell my friend 'no' if it were me. You need to encourage her to seek help from the professionals, particularly if they have helped before.

www.addaction.org.uk/

Relative, yes :)

I don't think I'd be able to speak to their GP and honestly without a hint of exaggeration, I think it would ruin our relationship forever. They are completely dependent on medical professionals while at the same time being hugely mistrustful of their motives (I know.)

I'm trying to think of relevant information which won't out the person but will enable me to get some hopefully constructive advice.

They work in healthcare and a few years ago got suspended on health grounds related to drug dependency (of the prescription variety - not sure why I feel the need to state that but I do!) Hence huge mistrust of anyone they see as consorting with the enemy so to speak. Won't open up properly to psychiatrists or counsellors in case 'it gets back to work.' Repeated assurances it won't don't work.

Do not do it.

We buried my sister in law a week ago and it has emerged that she was taking non prescribed presceiption drugs. It is currently assumed that this is her cause of death (until biopsies come back).

The person supplying her has left a large enough paper trail to involve the authorities.

Do not do it.

100 dihydrocodeine for £45. It looks like all I would have to do is fill in a couple of forms online, sign a consent, answer a couple of questions from an online doctor & pay. I've not gone so far on the website as to put my details & get to the medical though.

No, I'm not doing it but the concern is that they want me to do it.

It suggests that the dependency is back.

Can you do a bit of a Meatload on them and say that you will do anything to help them but buy them drugs? Offer to go with them to counselling, or help them find someone who is suitably non-medical that they can talk to? The Samaritans? Or could you attend a nar-anon meeting for some advice? that you are in this situation - it must be awful for you knowing and not feeling like you can do anything.

Meatloaf! Not meatload - apologies for that weird image in what was supposed to be a helpful post...

Meatloaf! Not meatload - apologies for that weird image in what was supposed to be a helpful post...

No - have arranged counselling before but it just doesn't help as they refuse to open up to them. They've also had psychotherapy through work.

I'm afraid they don't want to be "helped"

I'd just refuse to do what they ask, remind them I love them and will always support them in accessing help then distance myself. I know it's hard but it's the only way.

Buying prescription only drugs online is a dicey business - you might be getting what it claims to be but you might be getting any old poisonous nonsense the suppliers happen to have lying about the place - would using that as a reason to refuse to buy her the drugs help at all? Kind of "I love you too much to risk harming you".

Given that you know about the addiction, and they know you know, I would I would see this as a cry for help. Otherwise this person would be finding other more secret ways to get access to drugs.

If you're serious about helping I'd say now is go in full throttle and say this is where it stops. It's a big commitment though so don't do it if you don't have the time or energy. Otherwise say that you know why they're looking for drugs and can't get involved.

You've got to be strong and refuse to do it. If they need the prescription drugs then they would have a prescription from the GP/Specialist etc for them. People who have studied for years to be able to prescribe.

That's the whole point.

You know they need help, they're refusing to see that they have a problem so you must not enable them to potentially harm themselves.

You need a way to say No without pissing them off. Could you try the 'internet sites are dodgy and I wont risk buying you rat poison' approach.

I'm not too worried about whether or not they'll be annoyed, it's more the fact they are evidently feeling like life's problems can be solved with pharmaceutical products that's the concern.

Ilovesooty - I know. The problem is when they end up passing out on trains and at the other end of the country or admitted to a psychiatric hospital it
will be me dealing with that :(