to tell my GP I refuse to stay on BC any longer?

[BlackNoSugar]

I have high BP which isn't responding well to medication. Last year my GP wanted to put me on some other meds but was reluctant as they cause birth defects and I wasn't on any BC. Long story short - just after Christmas I started on Cerelle (POP), and the GP prescribed the new meds.

I've bled almost every day since (full period and then heavy spotting). I am totally fed up with it. DH had a vasectomy last week, so in 4 months or so it won't matter anyway. I saw the WellWoman nurse on Friday, who listened, shrugged, said there was no other option, and gave me another six months of Cerelle. I don't want another six months of constant spotting.

I have a GP appointment later today. WIBU to tell him I'm not going to take any more Cerelle? I don't want to come off the BP meds, and I'm certain I can avoid pregnancy for four months.

They probably wouldn't put a Mirena just for a few months, they are quite expensive.

OP - how about you suggest either condoms + extra spermicide + OPKs & totally avoid PIV on fertile days, or just abstain from PIV altogether? My doctor took my word for it that DH & I abstained while I was on some meds a few years ago where we needed bombproof BC.

I'd just stop taking them then, and use condoms properly (most failures due to not using correctly, ie doing a bit of bareback first and only putting them on for ejaculation while forgetting about pre-cum) and abstain during ovulation week/most fertile period.

This is assuming you wouldn't have a problem having a termination in the tiny chance you do get pregnant.

I wouldn't even tell the GP and just use condoms. We used them for years and years and never got pregnant. Because we used them correctly.

Notrevealing how did you know?

Appointment is in 20 mins. Thanks everyone for suggestions.

oh I can spot a fellow bum sex lover a mile off.

Just use the condoms OP. I would probably not tell the GP and just get the script as suggested by a pp. Most condom failures are down to laziness/incorrect use, often because there is a deep-down hankering for an 'accident' to happen anyway. There is always the MAP and termination options for you in the very unlikely event it fails with perfect use anyway.

Condoms plus diaphragm?

Can't you get MAP to have in, just in case, now?

I would use condoms and avoid PIV (or anywhere near) during fertile days for four months. Worth getting a predictor kit for it.

Good luck with the appt.

Fingers crossed it goes well!

What's PIV?

I had similar with cerelle, it's a cheaper version of cerazette. No problems with cerazette.

Condoms, diaphragm (assuming you can find someone to fit it), vaginal hormonal ring thingie, patch.

I would not recommend condoms and ovulation kits. That's how pfb was conceived

PIV = penis in vagina

Why does your GP want you to be on reliable contraception? Are BP needs dangerous if you get pregnant?

Yes thehumanjam these meds mean I must not get pregnant.

GP considered all options before Cerelle; he's not happy with the reliability of condoms or barrier methods, would much rather I was on hormonal BC and the only suitable hormonal method is desogestrel.

Just had the appointment, he isn't too happy but in the end it's my decision. There was a quite amusing bit:
GP: How are you planning to avoid pregnancy?
Me: You can have sex without getting pregnant.
GP (visibly wincing) Withdrawal?
Me: No, I mean you can have sex without actual intercourse, there are other options.

GP:

So the upshot is, the Cerelle is off my medications list, GP is unhappy with the situation but willing to compromise and keep me on the BP meds as long as I'm very very careful. and DH and I might finally get to shag again

told you that would do it !

:D great result!

Poor GP, he's probably reliving that consultation in excruciating detail all evening now; thinking she takes it up the arse! while clutching his pearls

Oh god I was meaning oral sex not arse sex! There was me laughing at him being all embarrassed about a blow job and he was thinking anal!

No wonder the poor bloke was doing the embarrassed-chuckle-not-meeting-my-eyes.

Oh fuck, when I said to him "you can have sex without having intercourse" and he got all embarrassed, I tried to lighten it all up a bit, I did a sort of hand gesture (you know, finger-into-ring of fingers) and said "as long as that doesn't go near there we're ok".

I'm never seeing him again, am I.

Oh lawd, that is so funny! Sorry

I would use condoms, charting and abstinence around ov.
And just not mention to the gp.

But then I'd probably also be ok with very early medical termination in this situation so that's a last resort.

Good result!

Wow. I'm not sure you can go back after that

No - she should go back and pretend nothing ever happened and it was perfectly normal. Which it is

It is funny - you used to hear stories of the 'old days' before sex education when people had to go to the doctors because they did not know how to go about it......... but now you have to tell them