dh and gifts

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Dh is very keen on giving jewellery. I have so many small pendant sets that I don't want yet another one. I can just tell that on any occasion, he goes to the same shop, buys a set and gifts me. I struggle to pretend how excited I am to receive the same gift with a different design. I started hinting that I have enough variety now and may want something different next time.

After getting 2-3 more pendants, I told him things I really want to buy next. I want to buy a dog scooter, I know it doesn't have the wow factor. Better than wasting more money on teeny tiny pendants each time. His reason is that nobody gifts things that are on my list because how could he tell others what he has gifted his wife. I don't think he goes to someone and tells what he has gifted me but his reasoning is beyond me. I should be thankful for the gifts but Goldsmiths only do a limited range

Would dog scooters a big no as gifts??

I can buy the scooter myself but thought my birthday is coming up, I had showed him which model I wanted to buy. But no, I got another pendant

What about lots and lots of tie pins Country. Less useful than a watch...

If I return his pendants, he feels bad as he chose this new piece of jewellery after spending 30mins looking for a new design.

Well boo fucking hoo to him! A whole 30 mins? He's making no effort at all. He's selfish and lazy.

For the dog scooter, sell all but 3 of the necklaces that you like!

How clearly have you been about not wanting more necklaces? Have you been as blunt as: 'Look at me, dh, I have one neck' waves hand around general neck area 'one neck and 623 necklaces. I do not want any more necklaces. I don't give a shiny shit what you tell other people, I want more variety in presents, stop wasting our money on things I don't want. You are banned from buying jewellery until I say otherwise.'

I opened his recent gift, it was a Goldsmith's gift packing - standard wrapper - so I knew what it was. Opened it, saw another pendant set, put it back and asked him to return it as I don't need any more pendants. It sits on our sideboard for days. I remind him once again to return it. He comes back and says he took it to the shop and they won't take it back after 14 days. The box sits on our sideboard in its original packaging. It can sit there till eternity.

"His reason is that nobody gifts things that are on my list because how could he tell others what he has gifted his wife."

Could you not say to him that people would be more impressed if he was the kind of person who bought gifts for his wife that she likes, rather than being the kind of person who buying his wife gifts in order to impress other people? It's bit all about him really at the mo isn't it?

(That dog scooter is truly amazing btw, no wonder you want one!)

Perhaps next time just don't open the box, give it back to him.

If he was buying a gift for you then he buy you something you want, otherwise it's just a waste of money.

Stick some of them on Ebay and put it towards your scooter. He may not even notice they're gone, if he's already bought you several.